Farewell

Farewell

Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to thank you, my followers, for being here and sharing this blog with your friends and family. Now, Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

All right my friends well, today we are going to discuss the future. We’re going to be talking about the future of “Your Amazing Life and you know I am really grateful to all of you who have been here and listen to me and follow me and it’s been an amazing process. I really enjoyed it! Things are going to be changing in the future I’m working on a few different things that are going to be in place of the “Your Amazing Life” podcast coming out I have twice a week. I will be sure to keep you updated on those as they become closer. But for right now I’m going to be not doing that “Your Amazing Life” podcast. It’s been a great run, I’ve been doing that for a year and a half now. It has not I’ve done the things that I was hoping it would do so I’m going to change up and see if I can move my business forward in a different way. But I am so grateful to each of you who have listened to me, each of you that are here today. I hope that you got a lot from the things that I talked about. I mean that that’s the whole point of it was to help you change your life and increase the success that you have in your life. Hopefully, it brought you some happiness. I am always open to talk with people and go over exactly what you want so that you can be happy. I’d really love to discuss that with you and see how I can be part of that process for you. Hopefully, I have done that in this program. The goal was to create some happiness in your life, giving you some tools that you could use to make a difference. I am so grateful for all of the support that I get! I did also want to publicly thank my beautiful wife Evelyn for all the support that she’s given me. She is amazing support, I mean she is just been there for me. She is gone above and beyond and I love her so much. I’m so grateful for all she’s done I couldn’t have done this much without her. I am really thankful for the opportunity the podcast has given me. I’m grateful I’ve had to serve over the last year and a half in this way. I’m going to be looking for other ways to serve and ways that we might reach a few more people. I have learned so much and getting these podcasts ready for you and I really appreciate the opportunity to be part of your life. You know the more that I learn about this world and how it works the happier I am and the more successful I become. I’ve been reading the book Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki. I’ve been learning so much for that right now there is a big huge to buy between “The Haves” and “Have Nots” one of the biggest in recent histories at least. The gulf is just getting bigger and there are all sorts of ideas on how to change that out there. Some of the ideas are being tried, others are not. 

Check out the podcast for the rest of the story.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is for you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. Well, I want to hear from you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

4 Hidden Steps to Becoming a Jedi

4 Hidden Steps to Becoming a Jedi

Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to thank you, my followers, for being here and sharing this blog with your friends and family. Now, Let’s get into Your Amazing Life. I want to give a couple of shout-outs first to one of my listeners Sebastion and to my California tribe. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

So what does it take to become a Jedi? You have a specific story that only you can share with and change the world. How do you get your story out there? You are unique. There is something different about each of you. If you are in your power “resistance is futile” But if you are not there how do you get there? How do you get your story out there? What is it you are here to share with the world? Many of us are willing to trade our story for putting our head down in a good job that gives us the entertainment that we want. If you have your toys what is the need of getting your story out there. Toys, Facebook, TV, and movies are great distractions. They keep us focused on what we are enjoying. It is so wonderful to live in a time and place when we have boats, 4X4, skiing, biking, motorcycles/ATV, and all the rest. They bring value and joy to our lives. I totally get that. We can get so caught up in our entertainment we lose track of what we are here to do.

Number 1: I hope each one of you realizes that you are here on a mission. There is a higher purpose to you and your life. There are so many things that your mission can be about. Maybe it is getting others to enjoy life. If your life is stressful, meaningless, and uninspiring then you have not found your purpose. You were not born to survive this life. You do not need to settle. You have more power and potential than you believe. Each one of us can have Confidence, direction, and significance in our lives. Best of all is you will help others to find their unique purpose as you find yours. Remember the poem Our Greatest Fear by Marianne Williamson 

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,

Our presence automatically liberates others.

We are headed to 50% 0f the population having medical issues. Many of those issues are made worse or even caused by a lack of nutrition. Yet our food doesn’t have the same nutrition that it did 40 years ago. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Are you looking to lose those Covid pounds? Then you need this. Start your day with a packet of nutrition. It will change your life. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order products or to connect with me as a team member is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health! This is an affiliate.

Today we are talking about 4 hidden steps to becoming a Jedi. We talked about how we often get sidetracked and entertained and that can keep us from finding our mission. We talked about the power that comes from knowing your mission. Then we talked about it is our light, not our darkness that scares us.

Number 2: Some will, some won’t, Whose next? Your mission will speak to some but not to others. Don’t let those that don’t see it get you down. Move on! Do not let them stop you because they can’t see your vision. Be persistent. Keep trying! As you continue to try you will find those that want to hear your story. 

Number 3: Know that you have value. Realize your true worth. Know what you have to offer others. Look at the things that you have accomplished. See what you are good at. Get to know yourself for who you are. Look at your abilities, the effort you have put in to accomplishing things, the things that you have performed well at. We do not need to compare how we have done as opposed to others just in comparison to ourselves. You are great not because you are better than others. You are great because of who you are and what you do? 

Number 4: Realize you are a leader. Speak out, what you are here to share. Make sure that you share your story with others. Realize the success you have created from the experiences that you have had over your lifetime. You are a leader because you are bent on improving yourself and your life. You are a leader to children, neighbors, coworkers, If you look at your light you will find ways that you are a leader. Those of you who think that you are not a leader, do you fear the light you have that people might follow.  As a leader realize you are human. You are not perfect nor do you know all the right answers. As a leader, you should be able to find answers in others.

If you are tired of suffering, beating up on yourself, do you feel powerless, uninspired, and stressed; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “You Have Value” program  If you are willing to make some changes, If you think you may be a fit for the “You Have Value program let’s talk.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life or 801-449-0750

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is for you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. Well, I want to hear from you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Thursday Exchange with Beth Crosby

Thursday Exchange with Beth Crosby
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to thank you, my followers, for being here and sharing this blog with your friends and family. Now, Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Kenn: We have Beth Crosby who says “Your story is your strength” she is a writing coach who helps entrepreneurial women comfortably write about what makes them the ideal fit for their clients.  Now, Beth joins me today to discuss the difficulties, blessings, and gratitude that kidney failure presented to her. From the smaller stories that comprise her life story, she learned to be grateful for the blessings of dialysis and 2 kidney transplants. Welcome Beth, 

Beth: Thank you a pleasure to be here.

Kenn: Awesome in one of your posts on LinkedIn you said “We become who we are because of experience” So what experience had a large part to play in you becoming who you are?

Beth: Probably the biggest influence or experience, when I was a child, was my fathers’ mom. She lived across the street from us and she retired from her nursing job right after I was born. She kept me and taught me grammar and to love to read. She is the one that got me through third-grade multiplication tables. But the experience of having a grandparent… My grandfather died when I was young. So, the experience of having a grandparent who had the understanding of the importance of education but also the importance of getting outside and playing in the sunshine really was critical in developing who I became. 

Ken: Okay Now you help women to write and share their stories. What is the importance of our stories?

Beth: They show who we are and help us to get to know each other better. So, a quick example of that would be; I have a motorcycle, my dad had a Harley Davidson, my uncles had Harley-Davidsons. I was three I had the smallest helmet and so I rode on Harley-Davidsons with them. I always wanted a Harley cuz I thought I was just one of the guys. That helps me to relate to men. I was in a networking group and I meet a guy and we started talking about motorcycles. I don’t remember if he had on a motorcycle shirt or what. Another gentleman I knew passed by and I said “hey come here” you need to meet so and so. He rides Harleys too. So, I had two or three sentences of conversation with them and then I left them to talk and I left the conversation. So even when we are networking for business those stories are what help us relate.

Ken: Okay you’ve mentioned your medical issues how have they changed your life?

Beth: I was diagnosed the first time when I was in my 30s. So, when you’re 34 and you get a phone call at work it says you’re in kidney failure and you need to go on dialysis right away you don’t take it like a 50 or 60-year-old person. I burst into tears and said I can’t believe you call me at work to tell me I have a death sentence. That’s exactly how I felt. He said it is not a death sentence Beth we just have to monitor and medicate it. We have to do the best that we can until it gets worse. Later he told me that if we had not done the biopsy within the next month, I would probably be incomplete kidney failure. Meaning I would make no urine and the kidneys did not clean the toxins out of my body. Putting me on dialysis 3xs per week four hours a day. 

Listen to the rest of the podcast to find out what blessings came from it. Beth also talks about how only when we accept our past and take hold of our experience do, we claim our power. 

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Are you looking to lose those Covid pounds? Then you need this. Start your day with a packet of nutrition. It will change your life. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order products or to connect with me as a team member is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health! This is an affiliate.

We are back with Beth Crosby. She was telling us about How our stories help us to relate and that can be used for business. She also talked about going into kidney failure. In this part, she talks about the “Turning Confidence into Cash Flow” summit. Then she answers the question, what it takes to have an amazing life?

What is the best way for folks to connect with you?

BethACrosby.com
LinkedIn.com/in/bethcrosby
Beth@BethACrosby.com

If you are tired of suffering, beating up on yourself, or overreacting; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete. Then you need the “You Have Value” program. If you are willing to make some changes contact me let’s see if you are one of the few that would be a fit for the “You Have Value” program.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life or 801-449-0750.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is for you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. Well, I want to hear from you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

So What do you Fear and What do you Desire?

So What do you Fear and What do you Desire?

Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to thank you, my followers, for being here and sharing this blog with your friends and family. Now, Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

There is the story of a man with a very stubborn mule who needed to get the mule to move. The mule was content to be where he was and didn’t want to put n the effort to walk and pull the man’s cart. So they sat there, neither got what they wanted. But then the man had an idea. He went a got a long stick string and a favorite treat of the mule. He tied the carrot to the stick and dangled it out just in front of the mule. The mule moved to get to the carrot. Then the mule went wherever the man led him with the carrot. There are many carrots in my life, and if you look closely you will find them in your life also. Maybe you get them from work where if you hit a certain number you get a bonus, party, or meal. The number could be for many things number of days without injuries, the number of sales. In fact, getting a job is a carrot and stick. You met this person they offered you cash if you would come in and do certain things and be present between certain hours and on certain days. Sometimes they offer 1.5 percent of the agreed-upon amount if you come in more than the agreed-upon time. Money is a carrot. It is often used to motivate. If you didn’t get paid would you still go to work? If the answer is no, then it is a motivation that is working. This carrot stick is often a part of relationships in addition to work. If your spouse does something you like you reward them. This is very often a part of parent-child relationships. They do their chore they get a popsicle. This is a viable way of changing behavior. It has been around forever because it works to a certain extent.

But there are a few requirements to get it to work, The carrot has to be something that means enough to the person for them to do it. If your boss said they wanted you to come in and work and you would be paid $1.00 that probably would not motivate you to come in. If you told your child you wanted them to spend an hour in the sun weeding for that popsicle they might not do it. Some of the information on the web states that this is a poor way of motivating others. Well, I’m not sure I agree with that analysis. I will agree that there are other ways and some of them are more productive. I will also agree that it works better in some relationships than in others. But there is a reason this has been around and is widely used. Everyone who has a job and gets paid for it likes this type of motivation. Money is used as a carrot so often that it can be overdone right. Money is an easy thing to come up with and it motivates so many people. In fact, it is usually about what number of bills motivates them, not a question of will they be motivated by it. Any other motivation takes a lot more personal knowledge of the person and their likes and dislikes. Plus it has to be individualized. Here are a couple of examples of ways people can be motivated; by things like gifts, or maybe words of affirmation, then some by relationships. Getting real with ourselves and seeing that we are motivated by money and knowing how much it takes to motivate us is the first step. We will be able to motivate ourselves better by understanding how we are motivated. We will understand why we are where we are and be able to make more changes by having a better handle on why money motivates us.

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Are you looking to lose those Covid pounds? Then you need this. Start your day with a packet of nutrition. It will change your life. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order products or to connect with me as a team member is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health! This is an affiliate.

So today we are talking about how we are motivated and why the carrot and the stick method is used so often. We talked about how a job is the basic in the carrot and the stick motivation. The carrot is money and the stick is the lack of food, shelter, and other desires. We talked about how the carrot needs to be something that the person wants in order to get them to perform the task that we want them to perform. We talked about how pervasive this kind of motivation is in our society and how it exists and works on all people. We showed that money is the easiest to use and commonplace carrot.

So I hope we now agree, you are motivated by money. You show up at a business listen to what others want, produce what they asked, and then you receive nothing more than a few sheets of high-quality paper with some ink on it, for doing so. If you do a good job then they dangle the possibility in front of you that they will give you more sheets of paper  Maybe they will give you more responsibility and work and then you get more sheets of paper. I have been sucked into this belief time and again. Have you ever had the thought,” if I just got paid more my life would be better?” One of the first times I had that was 30 years ago. Guess what I make more now than I did then. But it is not the making more that made the difference because each time I made more I spent more. It kept me just above broke most of the time. Besides the fact that there is scientific data that even if people decided how much they would earn they would not enjoy their job more. I mean look at your life. When you first got a job compare it with now, do you make more now? How much of that goes out to expenses and debts? Is it 40, 60, 80%, or more? How much money do you have leftover at the end of the month? Maybe you have month leftover at the end of the money. So why is it that we accept that money is a carrot? 

Why do we allow money to be a motivating factor? The first one we already mentioned is it is easy to do. Most of us have fear of the stick (homeless) and a desire for the carrot (things money will buy). Another reason is that we don’t know what other likes and dislikes we have. According to the numbers, there is no correlation between personal engagement and salary. People making $500,000s per year dislike their jobs as much as those making $24,000. Do you know what you are good at? How much do you know about your interest and skills? Do you see the personal work that goes into finding other motivating factors? Those that do the work find more happiness and success. If you are intrinsically motivated by your job you will perform better. Money does motivate, but the problem is it only moves us so far. It gets you to show up. It gets you through what is required. But it doesn’t get you to enjoy it. It doesn’t get you to learn, or to become. Once you have the needs for you and your family met the psychological benefits of money drop. Arnold Schwarzenegger said it best “Money doesn’t make you happy. I now have $50 million but I was just as happy when I had $48 million.” Money is nothing more than a concept or symbol to facilitate trade. We as people project our own attitudes and tendencies towards it. We project definitions onto it. To understand the meaning of money in your life you must discern what definitions and attitudes you carry towards money. Learn why it is a carrot and why the number of carrots in the bunch is the motivation needed to move. Then start to learn what else motivates you intrinsically. What do you love? How do you value money? Learning these things about you will give you vision, into what makes you happy and motivates you. It will give you freedom and power in your life. 

It is your personality, your thought process, knowing who you are and what your skills and abilities are that will affect your happiness. Stop looking for money to do what only you can. Realize money for what it is a concept to facilitate trade. See it as the illusion it is just the tool used to exchange goods and services. It has no intrinsic value. It is a value based on the illusion, Its value is based on trust. We don’t have the same trust in money that we did 50 years ago. At that time we money was worth more. There was less inflation. The more the masses make the less it is worth. Our buying power has gone down. This is due to a lack of trust in money. Because we have decided that income is the carrot and have less vision about what motivates and makes us happy we put less stock in the worth of the money we are bringing into make us happy.

So maybe you are tired of suffering, tired of beating up on yourself, and overreacting, tired of doing it over and over again; Maybe you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, then you need the “You Have Value” program.  Very few people are accepted but let’s talk and find out if this is a fit for you!.  Contact me, @ ken@creatingyouramazing.life or 801-449-0750.

“Next time you’ll hear the interview with Beth Crosby about learning to write and the importance of your story …

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is for you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. Well, I want to hear from you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Are you struggling to get over your divorce?

Are you struggling to get over your divorce?
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Many of you have or will go through a divorce. How did that affect your life? How did it affect your confidence? So, I was once told; you should only get divorced when the pain of being together is greater than the pain of divorce. There will be pain either way. I know a lot of my listeners have had to deal with this. Many of the people I coach have also. Some of them have deal with abusive spouses. Some have been gaslighted, treated with verbal and physical abuse, others have been in toxic relationships. Each of them got to the point the pain of being together was greater than the pain of getting divorced. Every one of you that has been through, or have at some point been thinking about divorce has some reasons for it right? How does thinking about divorce leave you feeling? Do you feel like you are a failure or broken? Maybe you feel triumphant or released of a burden. What about feeling some guilt? There are many things you can feel and all of them are correct. But it is important to process each of those emotions. If you don’t move past those it is likely to become an issue for you again.

Maybe you are unsure whether the pain of divorce would be more than the pain of staying married. Maybe you like some of my clients were abused in some way by a spouse. Maybe you feel loss, shame, or guilt in regard to the divorce. Divorce triggers all kinds of emotional pain and that is in the best of situations. It often creates unsettling feelings and disrupts the life you knew. You then have to create new routines, often your ability to trust another person is affected. If you are thinking about it be prepared it will be tough from start to finish. The finish is not necessarily when the divorce is finalized either. There is a great deal of pain that goes along with divorce no matter whose idea it is or how long you have been considering it.

Many of you may be looking to survive the divorce. You just want past the feelings of anger, hurt, confusion, depression, and pain, right? At some point, you had positive feelings for this other person you even said you loved them, right? So, there will be a loss that you will go through. Maybe the divorce was last month maybe it was 10 years ago. It is still possible that you look back fondly on the marriage or maybe feel regret. There were both good and bad times in the marriage, right? It is normal to remember both of those at different times. It is best to take adequate time and be honest, reflect on your feelings, process those emotions. This can be done by talking with someone that can help you walk through what you are experiencing. Walking through this with you can make a huge difference in your life and prepare you for a much better life and relationship going forward. Maybe you have developed new structures. Hopefully, you have looked over the feelings and done the soul searching to find out what is important to you. I talked with a friend and we were looking over the list that they had created on what the ideal relationship would look like. What was important to them. That is making a huge difference in their lives and helping them through the divorce.

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Are you looking to lose those Covid pounds? Then you need this. Start your day with a packet of nutrition. It will change your life. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order products or to connect with me as a team member is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health! This is an affiliate.

Today we are talking about some of the struggles you may be experiencing because of your divorce. Maybe you feel some anger, hurt, confusion, depression, or pain due to the breakup. I get it maybe you are dealing with some shame. Maybe you feel “less than.” Breakups can fuel many of these feelings right! There is a sense of loss when any relationship is changed. Despite the differences in divorce, I’m betting you feel a sense of this loss. This is part of the grief cycle and it is normal. You lost more than just a person you lost the family unit, you lost shared dreams. So, let’s get back into it.

  1. You may find it hard to believe it is happening to you. You may think if you change your spouse will come back.
  2. Shock: This is when you may feel panic, rage, numbness. You also might feel fear when thinking about being on your own.
  3. Rollercoaster: You may go back a forth from despair to the belief that it can be saved. This is when depression is a real danger. You might try to break everything down and figure out what happened This stage can lead to many destructive thoughts.
  4. Bargaining: You may be willing to try to change who you are to rewin your spouse. If you didn’t want the divorce, you might get stuck here for some time. But each of us gets to make decisions for ourselves and we have to respect the right they have to do that.
  5. Letting go: Now you realize the relationship is over. You know that there is nothing you can say or do at this point to change that. You begin to see a light at the end of the tunnel and have a sense of hope for the future.
  6. Acceptance: Now that the obsessive thoughts have stopped. The need to heal your marriage is behind you. You have plans for yourself and are emotionally prepared for the future. You are in acceptance. Now is the time to continue your look into yourself. Discover your talents, likes, and abilities. Answer the questions What do you want from a relationship. What are you willing to give up? What are deal breakers? 

Some people move from one relationship to the next and find themselves in a similar situation each time. The players change but the rules stay the same. This is because they didn’t do the self-work so that they could move to a healthier relationship.

In case you are not sure there is life after divorce. You can have more than you dreamed of and have the life you wanted. All of this is possible. You can make these changes by asking these questions of yourself, to figure out what you want. Knowing and loving yourself is key to any happy healthy relationship. You must first have a quality relationship with yourself. I can help you with tools and tricks to learn about and develop a greater love for yourself.

If you are tired of suffering, tired of beating up on yourself. If you want to struggle less and enjoy more, I have the thing for you.  Join the “you have value” program. Then you can have a truly amazing life that is connected and complete. If you are willing to make some changes and invest in yourself. I would love to help you to create who you are capable of becoming.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Thursdays Exchange with Jason Holzer on Suicide

Thursdays Exchange with Jason Holzer on Suicide
Your Amazing Life
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Thursdays Exchange with Jason Holzer on Suicide
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group.

Ken: Jason Holzer is a certified teacher and thought coach, accomplished basketball coach, and elite skills trainer. He is also an Amazon Best Selling author, Post-Traumatic growth storyteller, and the Co-Founder of 4D Athletes. Welcome, Jason.

Jason: Howdy Ken thanks for having me on the show today. I appreciate it.

Ken: You’re welcome. All right so how did you come to write the book? How did it come into being?

Jason: Well you know I did basketball camps for a long time. So I traveled across the US. I went to a lot of places some were small enough to drive through. I was driving to eastern Ohio, almost like the border of Pennsylvania. I like to drive without any radio on sometimes just in pure silence. I have two kids I’m a teacher, so there is always a lot of noise. So sometimes it is just nice to be where there is nothing going on. I’m a man of faith and I believe in spirituality. As I was in that quiet place and just being. The word “write” came into my mind. I was unsure of how to process that. I got home and that thought kept nagging at me “write” I was like “huh, Okay.” I told my wife, “I think I’m supposed to write a book.” She was like “you are? about what?” I think God is asking me to write a book about losing my dad to suicide. My wife said really do you know how to do that? I told her I had no clue. I went to college to become a physical education teacher. I work in sports. Nothing in my degree says creative writing or anything like that. A long story short about 18 months later, I ended up; I wrote a book about my story of losing my dad to suicide when I was 17 years old. but I didn’t want to just be that, of the loss, I wanted to be a crescendo of hey how do I get over being left behind. You can still have a great life despite what happened to you.

Ken: Okay so tell us more about the book

Jason: Yeah sure it’s a first-person narrative of what I went through. So that when you read it you feel like you are in my shoes. Everybody processes grief and loss differently. but I wanted to give people an experience of what I personally went through. Knowing that hopefully, people will feel similar things. Everyone’s experiences will be different but sometimes emotions can be relatable. That was my goal. But then the second part of that I talked about things like self-love, things like building great habits, Things like forgiveness, and how to heal yourself. how would I heal myself from the trauma in order to find my identity? So that I could find my vision in order to let go of these negative emotions of anger, resentment, These were things that I harbored inside. To be able to move on. To learn how to get past some of the most difficult times in your life. To see a positive, optimistic future and believe that things will get better. I will be able to smile again, there is a rainbow at the end of the storm. So the second part of that is the healing piece of it.

Ken: share with us what happened?

Jason; It was spring of 2003. I was a JR in High School. I woke up the morning of May 8th and my dad was gone already I was thinking he had already gone to work. I walked into my living room and my mom was there and over the top upset. but she complained about it and just said she had a stomach ache. Then she rushed us out of the house. A couple of things felt off initially. I get to school, now that part felt normal, but then about 10 AM they get on the intercom and call me out of class. I go to the office and they tell me my Aunt and Uncle are coming to get us. At that point you know I’m driving I’m 17 yrs old. I am putting the pieces together. I knew I didn’t have an appointment. I was taking a test in the class they called me out of and the teacher had told us you don’t get out of class for anything. The school had to fall down before you get out of taking that test. When the front office was adamant about me having to go in the middle of taking a test. Immediately I felt like something happened. I walked up to the front office and I was like “what is happening? what’s going on?” My Aunt and uncle meet me they said your dad has been in an accident. He was a blue-collar worker, an electrician, so that could have easily happened. They told me hey we’re going to the hospital to be with the family. Then we went to my house instead. The hospital and my house are not in the same direction It is two different turns and they head towards the house. I was too nervous, too scared to say anything “I just sat in the back and thought did my dad die?” I think my dad died today I almost intuitively knew it before I was told. This was one of my first intuitive moments. Where you feel like Huh, At 17 this was my first experience with my dad is gone. When we got home my mom broke the news to us. I went from feeling almost every emotion to feeling numb. I didn’t feel anything. It was emotion overload, I didn’t know how to process everything I was going through. Because of the whirlwind, the questions of why, and honestly the heartbreak of losing him. Not just him dying but him dying by suicide. That just creates a tougher complexity. I asked things like “What was so bad that it made you feel like taking your own life was the best option?” What got so bad, that he felt like him taking his life was the best thing for us.

Ken: One of the lies that we hear when we are in that space is the people we love will be better off without us, right?

Jason: Exactly, Even today this is a question I want to know the answer to Why did he think that was the best option. So that I can understand I just want to know what was so bad. I’ve done a lot of work on myself to get to a place to still finding joy. 

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Listen to the podcast to hear the whole interview.

If you are tired of suffering, beating up on yourself, overreacting, breaking your word, and doing it over and over again; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “you have value” program. If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself, and continue to try. I would love to help you to create who you are capable of becoming.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

A Return to Past Interviews

A Return to Past Interviews

Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a couple of shout-outs first to my listener Mia and to my Georgia tribe. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

We are going to listen to a few moments from different shows today. We will start with

Christopher Salem: He was given a year and a half to live. He ended up dying 4 months into his diagnosis. I remember the day before he died. I remember him looking over at me and he couldn’t talk but his eyes were somewhat open. It was like he wasn’t really there. But yet in a way, he was it was just in a different way. It was like him communicating to me saying listen. I apologize I wasn’t the dad that you were looking for or expected. I did my best; I could only give what I knew.  For some reason, it hit me in a way that I never imagined. I never thought of it that way, I just thought my dad didn’t have any interest hang around with me and my brother and that he was just more selfish and caught up in things that were important to him. I didn’t realize that the same thing happened to him growing up. He was kind of neglected by his own father and he was just repeating what he knew. It wasn’t like he didn’t care or didn’t love us he didn’t know how to. As a result of that, I didn’t know this Verbatim, what I’m telling you right now. Just on some level I kind of had this idea at that point and that was a pivotal moment for me. I said to myself that I was not going to be the victim of life and business. I was going to take ownership of whatever I could control.  I was going to find a way to get overcome these behavioral patterns and these ways that got me into trouble with other people, with jobs, in ventures, and things that were just going on at the time. As a result of that, I didn’t know how it was going to do it, but I made a commitment that I was going to find a way to do it, and that’s what ended up happening. I ended up finding a process that allowed me to get at the root cause of my troubles, To get to my issues, which were limiting beliefs. I had this great need for validation, which was a result of again not having my father present. I was seeking this out in my father and would seek out situations in work, in business, with girlfriends, everyday life to fill that need for validation. So that led to years of passive-aggressive behavior, communication codependency, and that just led to more or less; fueling that anger that I experienced each and every day. When I was able to get to the root cause of that and realize it was my dad, I began to release it over time and then forgive myself, most importantly. I began to incorporate healthier habits, disciplines that begin to fill that space, that need for validation once occupied.

Jacquelyn Phillips: A happy person that was buried in there, who had been wanting to break out all along but didn’t know-how. Today I share my story, I do my best to help others, make help seem more easily attainable and more dignified. 

Ken: Okay great What was the most uncomfortable or difficult change that you had to make?

Jacquelyn Phillips: The most painful was having to become clean. I was really good at lying and you can only lie for so long, eventually, you get caught up in it. So, breaking the habit of lying and not embellishing that was really hard to do. As far as the most uncomfortable it was falling in love with myself. Because for the longest time it felt really hokey. I would say “I love myself” but that just sounds really dumb. But you have to! You have to love the person that you are. Because if you, don’t you can’t love anything else fully because you are holding back. Life is much more freeing if you have love in your heart! Especially if you aim that love at things.

Ken: Yeah, I mean because the lie that we are telling ourselves is that we are not loveable Right!

Jacquelyn Phillips: Absolutely, I’m not lovable, I’m a broken toy, I’m damaged goods, nobody wants me, nobody likes me. I had built this Persona that I thought people liked, it was exhausting and it wasn’t authentic. It turns out nobody really enjoyed it anyway. 

Kim Knavel: I can dig myself out if I wake up and I feel terrible, I can change that. I have the skills to change that, I just have to slow down and step back, and before I couldn’t do that. but yeah, I use the “you have value” program at least 2 or 3 times per week.

Ken: Great I’m glad to hear that, all right so what is the difference that the “you have value” program has had on your life? 

Kim Knavel: I used to always say my depression was like a spiral staircase and it just takes you down and you don’t know you’re there till you hit the bottom. I can now catch when I’m slipping. Sometimes I have to sit “with” the depression for a couple of days while I’m doing my meditations or my affirmations and things like that. But I don’t have to sit “in” my depression and that is a huge change. So, I can still function during the depression. Maybe I’m not like telling jokes 24/7. But I can still function through it because I have these other processes that remind me that I can make it through. That’s really, that (sobs) …

Ken: That’s great, Yeah, what’s coming up?

Kim Knavel: It’s… I used to not think there was anything I could do about the way I felt. I would get depressed, sometimes it was situational sometimes it wasn’t. I do have clinical depression also and when it was situational… I couldn’t make it go away, when it was just because I was depressed, I couldn’t make it go away. I always felt like everything else was controlling me. The people around me, my emotions, everything. I like not… I like not being controlled. I like being able to say “I can sit with you for a few days and I can look at these depressive feelings and I can see where they’re coming from.” I don’t have to judge them and they can make me sad for a minute but I’m not going to be buried in them. 

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Today we are listening to parts of interviews from over the past year. We heard from Chris Salem about overcoming the need for validation. We heard from Jacquelyn Phillips about learning we are lovable. Then we heard from Kim Knavel about how she overcomes her depression. So, let’s get back into it.

Rich Cardone: I believe work-life balance is a complete myth. I believe it the state of mind because you can’t achieve it. It is not a destination, you can achieve, it’s just a state of mind. you either feel bad that you’re giving work your all; or that when you’re with your family you’re giving your family our all, or whatever that may be. But it is not something that you can achieve, so you know the key to having an amazing life is balance. I get up very, very early each day at 4:01 and I either do some reading or go straight into some emails and just you know get the admin work out of the way the stuff I won’t want to do once the day really, really starts, or more often than not, I am going to take care of myself physically. Doing these things for me that’s incredible balancing for me because they are not income-producing activities, right like and you know. So, there’s family and then there’s work and then you. You are talking to someone that hardly read up until a couple of months ago. Now I am reading at least 10 pages a day no matter what. Sometimes 10 turns into 15 and sometimes if the book is really good, I pick it back up at night until I start falling asleep. Then I’m like, wow I actually ended up doing 30 today. That’s balanced for me. The physical part is also balancing for me, it is one of the only things you can’t delegate or have someone else do. You can’t have someone take a shower for you and you can’t have someone do cardio for you. But you can have someone mow the lawn for you if you want, you can have someone creating content for you, or if you want you can have someone edit a podcast for you. But you cannot outsource your health. So, it comes to balance that to me is a key to an amazing life. and then the other thing is and look you know the question is what do you need to do for an amazing life. Well look I don’t even know if I have an amazing life yet because I’m always asking myself is “my head where my feet are” meaning if I’m hanging out with my daughter on the playground is my head there, or am I thinking of all these business ideas and who I owe what or anything like that. So that kind of present, just like we talked about earlier was Vision its Progressive uncovering right. I will get better because I care about balance and because I care about balance I care about self-improvement. I don’t like to let things linger that aren’t actually bringing value to my life. I think if you have a good radar for where you need to improve and where you need to be able to sit with yourself and to sit comfortably. That is what’s going to give you an amazing life. 

Ken: Okay, awesome you said you had listened to my podcast so you might have heard this question that I asked all my guests. If there were three ideas that you could leave this world and your posterity what 3 ideas would you leave them so that they can have an amazing life? 

Isabel Chiara: Number one would to really look at your life as it happened for you! Anything that happened in your life happened because we all have those stories that are sitting in our brain just keeps going over them. Maybe it was what we consider a failure, it could have been the worst thing that ever happened to us. But it happened so there is something about that thing that happened. Maybe it happened to move us in another direction. I always think that life happening for me right now. The second part of that is, that we don’t know the rest of the story, right? But I always take myself out of this, I don’t say “Oh my God this is not working for me” or “why did this happen.” I go right to I don’t know the rest of the story, it’s bigger than me like the universe brought me here for a reason. Maybe I’m supposed to meet somebody, maybe I’m not supposed to get on that plane, maybe this is the end of this relationship but a better relationship is coming. Okay, so that’s number 2. Then Number 3 is we get to love ourselves for every single thing that we do. Anything we’re doing we get to use the words like in my book Eat your Words” we get to say I love myself in that and if we could feel that. You know we can say it but if we can feel that love for ourselves in every instance the world in front of us would begin to expand and things would get magnetized to us. 

Justin Springer: We always, as hard times come, we feel like we must be going the wrong way you know. I know we talked about a lot, I’m sure you do with mindset, With like “flow states” and all that stuff. That could be another discussion, but what I think is sometimes the hardship is we need to embrace a little bit more. Cuz that’s where the lesson is found.  I’m with you right I probably heard that before, a long time ago, but it didn’t really resonate. But now I can see it, that sometimes it’s just like all, I kept going and now I learned what it takes. Okay great so now I can apply it. You know it’s kind of one of those things we don’t get too we are a little bit older, anyway. 

Ken: Awesome so now let’s go if you could leave 3 things for this world what three things would you leave?

Justin: I know this is kind of maybe basic stuff but it really does mean a lot to me. But number one you know if I could do anything for my kids It would be to go after your dreams of course. Right, I know we hear that a lot, but it’s so true. Really just go for it, you know me what’s the worst thing that’s going to happen. Gary Vaynerchuk, a lady ran up to him while he was in a cab and asked him to give her three words of motivation or something. His answer was “you’re going to die” right. It was a joke but it means a lot. It is serious, go for your dreams. Number 2 is to have self-confidence, I couldn’t believe how much that was a thing like, you have to be your biggest fan or your biggest cheerleader. Really if you look back at the people that are like millionaires or are successful, or whatever you deem success to be. You’ll notice that maybe they didn’t look the prettiest, maybe they weren’t the smartest, maybe whatever it is; but they all believed in themselves and whatever they were doing. Whatever they were doing at that time to achieve that goal, they believed in it wholeheartedly. You could not shake those people and so that was one thing that I learned, that I had to do. I have to build my self-confidence up so I would like to leave that with people too. The third thing, I think and it goes back to what we just kind of talked about. Your habits are everything, your actions, right. You have to become this person of value with yourself. Because the moment that you stop being that person and you give in like they say you know, “how you do anything is how you do everything” right. The moment you become that person you will fail at everything. So really, just go with your habits, make sure you have good habits, especially with some people like with kids. I try to do that with my daughter instill good habits that way it’s going to serve her later on in life. 

If you are tired of suffering or of beating up on yourself, tired of not feeling like yourself If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete. Then you need the “you have value” program.  If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself. I would love to help you to create who you are capable of becoming.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.

“Next time you’ll hear about the amazing experiences of the Velvet Revolution and the ideas behind it…

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Welcome to Thursday’s Exchange with Isabel Chiara Author of “Eat Your Words.”

Welcome to Thursday’s Exchange with Isabel Chiara Author of “Eat Your Words.”
Your Amazing Life
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Welcome to Thursday’s Exchange with Isabel Chiara Author of “Eat Your Words.”
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group.  I want to give a shout-out to Jamie Lin and to my New York listeners. For sharing it with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Ken:

We have Isabel Chiara, creator of “The Life Actualization Process,” She is a guide, mentor, and leader, studying and working in transformational energy modalities, Isabel activates unlimited potential and empowerment for her clients, helping them to ignite their full passion and align with their most authentic life path, by eradicating constricting beliefs, definitions, and self-limitations.  She is the author of a new book “Eat Your Words” Welcome to the Show Isabel

Isabel:

Thank you so much Ken for having me here. I’m so excited

Ken:

You’re welcome, yes me too. So, let’s go ahead and get right into this and talk about body shame and self-discovery.

Isabel:

Is that where we’re starting? My favorite subject. Okay, body shame is something that I don’t think I’m the only one that experienced it. I say that it’s something that is taught to us when we are younger. Whereas the things we do… I think things have shifted a lot with parenting lately, but I think that when we were younger, our parents if they didn’t like things, or if our parents didn’t think it was good for us, or if you’re not doing something according to their specifications, parents would call you out on it or bring it up. Then there would be this non-acceptance. It almost feels like it’s the behavior that has the non-acceptance, but it actually comes across to the child as non-acceptance of them, because as a child we don’t know the difference. We think that it’s us that are not accepted, right? So, I think that when you start to put on pounds when you’re at a young age or you’re eating in a certain way. In my family it was related to the way you ate and if you ate too much. So now all of a sudden that behavior is not acceptable and your family’s kind of watching you. Now as you continue on your path of nourishment, which is supposed to be the most nourishing years of your life, we start to develop this story that we carry for the rest of our life. I am just going to go back to the child in the book “Eat Your Words.” Because we start to develop our vocabulary that we internalize based on what our parents are saying to us. So now if I were to consciously eat, I’m really going through my own psyche and saying wait, should I have this, or should I not eat this. I mean it starts at an early age. So, it’s really actually about seeing ourselves in a certain way. Through the eyes of our parents or guardians or our loved ones, right?

Ken:

I have a bunch of experience with this also. I mean my wife deals with body shame and a number of family members who also deal with it. We actually have a foster daughter and I really have to be careful with the words I use. Because I do not want to put body shame onto her or words into her head. But I want to train her to take care of herself. There are just so many people who suffer from this. What do you think we can do?  

Isabel:

So, you want the solution. There is no easy answer because there is not a one-size-fits-all for anybody, right? Including myself, I mean, I almost didn’t write the book because I didn’t have a solution. The book is not written with a solution to it but to help people recognize that there are other people out there that feel exactly the same way that they do. I mean it’s really getting underneath everything like every instance or event in one’s life creates a certain feeling. Then from all of these events, we choose what we say to ourselves. I mean my choice… thank God I didn’t do drugs, but food can be a drug depending on how you use it right? So back to the solution question, I find down the path That I have to be very very conscious of what the words are when I have an emotion. Because there’s a lot of emotions that are associated with our behavior. How we eat, what we eat, and what we choose, are very associated with how we really feel about ourselves. If we were really to check into it right now there’s a lot of science going on about how different reactions, real chemical reactions, are affecting the brain. How they are causing different types of cravings. Dr. Amen does a whole study of it and he wrote a whole book on it. I’ve been studying with the Amen clinic also, on these types of cravings and these types of behaviors. Because they can become uncontrollable and it’s really based on foods, different foods create a lot of these cravings. If you start to eat sugar, by the way, sugar is the number 1 culprit in these cravings, so if we start to eat sugar then we crave more sugar. so, when something happens, we then want to eat something sugary. I do work with people to change behaviors and the consciousness of our thoughts is super key here. Also, I’m trying to retrain how I’m looking at the whole behavior and I now say to myself and train others on ways to nourish the brain. What kind of Vitamins and what kind of nutrients, because there are so many choices out there, to balance the brain out? Which will minimize the cravings. It’s a whole thing, It often backfires in our face. It has for both me, and for my character from my book, okay her name is Gianna Giovanni and she comes from an Italian family which focuses on food, right it is in the DNA. She goes through her life of dieting. Then things happen in her life, then she starts this diet and that one. There’s a lot of really funny stories in this book which people would say, it’s funny and they will laugh but then they will also understand underneath that behavior is something out of our control or kind of addictive. 

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order products or to join me is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

Check out the podcast for the rest of the conversation.

What is the best way for folks to connect with you?

Web: Isabel Chiara

FB: TheActualizer

Insta: @EatYourWordsBook

Twitter: @IzChiaraAuthor

Next time we will talk about… What set of financial rules do you play by?

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

What are My Fears, “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” – Thomas Carlyle

What are My Fears, “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” – Thomas Carlyle
Your Amazing Life
Your Amazing Life
What are My Fears, "Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment." – Thomas Carlyle
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it, leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a couple shout outs first to my follower Sebastian and to my Florida tribe they are picking up the pace. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Maybe you have a guess or you have attempted to put out a podcast before. Maybe you know or can guess how much work it is. I have been doing this podcast for over a year now. Four days a week.  I am going to change it up. The schedule will now be Tuesday and Thursday. It will still post at 5 am MTN. but starting today it will just be 2 per week. I’m grateful to you, my listeners. I hope this continues to make a difference in your life.  I have been working at this podcast for over 1 year. It is difficult to keep up with, and it is not where I was hoping it would be now. So, for now, it will be 2 days per week.

Putting yourself out there is difficult. It doesn’t have to be in a podcast. I’m sure you have put yourself out there in one way or another in the past. Maybe you found it difficult too. There are so many negative thoughts and stories that you and I can talk about your life, right? If you are like me it goes in waves. There are probably times when you feel confident and then there are other times when you don’t. Maybe your thoughts and stories are about your relationships. It could be about your job or business. Maybe you are locked in at a certain amount of money you earn and you struggle to make more. There are so many places that the story we tell ourselves drives what we see in our lives. It doesn’t matter if you make $1000.00 a month, or a million. Maybe you remain in a job position that you are good at but doesn’t fulfill you. If you are stuck it is because of the story you tell yourself and how confident you feel. There are so many people that tell a story that they are not in control of their lives. If something outside of them was better than their life would be better. If a parent would stop doing this, if they had insurance which would cover that. If they didn’t have to be responsible for their actions. So many people are looking for a scapegoat for their lives. Some people have told me that they can’t believe in God because if a God were all powerful then they would not allow for “bad things” to happen…

So, what we are talking about is confidence or “Swagger” as my friend Leslie Elm calls it. There is a big difference between confidence and arrogance. Confidence is a fairly quiet knowing. A trust in one’s abilities, qualities and performance. It is knowing what you are competent in. There is no comparison with others abilities in confidence. Just because you are exceptional at something doesn’t mean that there aren’t people out there that are equally skilled. Arrogance comes when we put our skills against others. When we judge how good or bad, they are in comparison to us, that is arrogance. Arrogance is much louder than confidence and it is boastful. Arrogance is what happens when the story we tell ourselves is that we must compete or win. Because of arrogance we think we must be better than others. Arrogance like all things comes at a cost. It is important to figure out what the costs are and whether you are willing to pay them. Telling a story that I am not good enough or that I don’t have the needed power to direct my life is arrogance. Arrogance can be “I am better than you” but it also includes those who look down on themselves. Finding your confidence or your swagger is important. Learning to pick between confidence and arrogance is important. Only in confidence are you 100% secure in your abilities.

What is wrong with feeling confident? Nothing, being Confident is amazing. You feel like you are on the top of the world. The question is then what brings true self confidence. How do we nurture it? Having confidence is great for mental wellbeing. It is possible to build confidence without arrogance. To do so you must nurture confidence without judgement or competition. Building confidence is an art form. So, let’s go over the things that it takes.

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order products or to join me is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

Today we started talking about fear which is the opposite of confidence. There are many fears that force us to play certain stories in our head. These stories affect our confidence and keep us stuck. Do you give up your ability to act and allow yourself to be acted upon? Is it that you think things outside of you will fix the parts that are broken inside? Confidence comes from a deep knowing of who you are and what you are capable of and can accomplish. Confidence comes from making correct decisions. It comes from looking inward not outward. Confidence drives out fear.

Here are some steps to develop confidence:

  • Attempt to do things you think are impossible… Get out of your comfort zone! Some of the things you try you will be able to do. Because you felt it was impossible and you did it It will build confidence in your abilities
  • List things that you have accomplished. Each night, write out a list of all the things you accomplished that day. As you look it over it will show the strengths and abilities you have.
  • Do the right things! When you do the right thing, it creates a sense of worth because the right thing is seldom the easy thing. Knowing that you did what is right will strengthen your 
  • Follow through… Actions create accomplishments, accomplishments create confidence!
  • Exercise, changes your physiology, it changes your emotions, it produces endorphins. It creates a different you.
  • Stand up for yourself… As Heath Ledger said in 10 Things, I Hate About YouDon’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want. Go for it.”
  • . Look at long term goals, passions, values
  • Change up your story, practice positive thinking.
  • Accept your emotions
  • Practice communication skills

If you are tired of suffering, beating up on yourself, overreacting, using avoidance tactics, breaking your word, and doing it over and over again; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “you have value program” If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself, fail forward and continue to try, or stop chasing comfort. I would love to help you to create who you are actually capable of becoming.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.

“Next time you’ll hear … Isabel Chiara and she will be telling us about her new book Eat Your Words.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Welcome to Thursdays Exchange with April Johnson

Welcome to Thursdays Exchange with April Johnson
Your Amazing Life
Your Amazing Life
Welcome to Thursdays Exchange with April Johnson
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it, leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a shout-out to my follower Elana and to my Arizona Listeners. For sharing it with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Ken: We have April Johnson with us today. She is a cachet white woman using she/her pronouns. April has a gift to provide hope and help with life problems and events. She draws upon the wisdom or a deep knowing as well as her own life experiences. Those experiences have included poverty; deaths; divorce; unemployment; housing instability; college attempts; and most recently cancer with a broken back, related paralysis and disability. So many hospital trips due to serious treatment side effects, lingering symptoms, and chronic pain. April lived in a nursing home for a year and a half including during the first nine months of the covid-19. Welcome to the Show April. So, tell me of all those experiences, what experience did you have the toughest time with? 

April: The nursing home; housing is frustrating and that certainly plays into my nursing home experience. I don’t think there is anything in life that prepares us for living in a nursing home. Whether it is the traditional unit as someone in their 40 years or it is someone at the end of life, it is a whole different experience. 

Ken: Yeah, what was that like for you?

April: Sad, painful, it felt like I was on the island alone, and forgotten. My choices were very few. It is a system and the people who are taking care of me are making lousy wages and worried about how they’re going to pay their bills, take care of their family, and put food on the table. So, they’re not always in the best headspace to meet me or anyone else in that environment where we are. There are really high expectations as residents and patients to know things that we don’t and to behave and conduct ourselves in a way that is foreign to us. So, it is very isolating. 

Ken: Gotcha yeah it would be, okay now you have been through some really tough things what have those experiences taught you?

April: A lot of things, healing is a process, it is ongoing. It feels daunting at first because it is heavy, but it gets better over time; and there is a place where it becomes a joy. To heal and to recognize that we are healing, learning that healing can go deeper is actually very cool. It expanded empathy for me, you know we’re all human we are all going through things. Not talking about things makes us feel more isolated. Finding a community and connection is really difficult.

Ken: I get that, how important is that connection to us as humans?

April: I think it is paramount. The lack of connection as individuals is at the root of a lot of our problems and struggles. It is a problem as individuals and as collectives in the world. We are missing the mark of humanity in the other person that we are dealing or communicating with at any given moment in time.

Ken: Now when did you know it was time to make a change and how did you get there?

April: It’s been time to make a lot of changes. The biggest and the best example was the night that I was hospitalized. I had six weeks leading up to that to get to the required weight for having an MRI. By that time, I was beginning to have some tingling in my leg which led to the paralysis you mentioned. The Urgent Care I went to read the MRI and we are not touching this. They sent me off to the hospital for the neurology folks to look at. Then I had a moment to pause and connect to some of my friends that had been in the hospital. Something greater than me came through my body and had me say, this is not the end, this is a reset. I think I knew on some level at that point that there was cancer or something serious like it. I knew that my higher power was telling me, this is a redirect, this is the beginning of a new chapter in your books. I still don’t know fully what that is, or what it looks like. But I’m on the New Path and I’ve met death at least three or four different times on this journey.  But I am still here. 

Ken: Awesome I’m glad you’re still here because this is an amazing story. I mean we all get to go down a path and we get to learn and to grow. We are all here for a specific reason, there is something that we can share with the world. Right?

April: Absolutely, yes, we all have these beautiful gifts that are uniquely ours, they are uniquely personal to us. The world needs each and every one of those gifts and each and every single one of us. We are often so busy fighting amongst ourselves that those gifts are getting squander, wasted, or lost. Because of this the world is not evolving into the place that it needs to be. 

Ken: We see that, now more than ever, don’t we? 

April: I think that this last year and Covid was here for a higher purpose. It was for a spiritual purpose. It was here to help us wake up, to pause, and rest, for those who had the privilege to do that with stay home orders and to re-evaluate what is important to us and how do we really want to be living our lives? True to form as Americans we mucked it up, a lot. But it is still here and it did resonate for many people and that creates a ripple effect. Even though it feels like we are in so much turmoil and we are. 

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order product or to join me is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

We are back with April Johnson. She has been talking about the poverty, death divorce, and health issues she has had to deal with. Please listen to the podcast for the rest of the interview where we talk about

How will your story help listeners change their lives for the better?

Tell me what accomplishments you’re most proud of:

Have you had to remove people, things, and habits from your everyday life, what were those and how did that help?

If there were only three ideas that you leave for this world and your posterity, what 3 ideas would you leave for them that could lead them to have an amazing life?

What is the best way for folks to connect with you?

April can be found by the username @ AskAprilJ on Twitter and Instagram. April’s email address is AJ.AskAprilJ@gmail.com.

“Next time you’ll hear what my fears are …

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!