Welcome to Thursday’s Exchange with Isabel Chiara Author of “Eat Your Words.”

Welcome to Thursday’s Exchange with Isabel Chiara Author of “Eat Your Words.”
Your Amazing Life
Your Amazing Life
Welcome to Thursday’s Exchange with Isabel Chiara Author of “Eat Your Words.”
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group.  I want to give a shout-out to Jamie Lin and to my New York listeners. For sharing it with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Ken:

We have Isabel Chiara, creator of “The Life Actualization Process,” She is a guide, mentor, and leader, studying and working in transformational energy modalities, Isabel activates unlimited potential and empowerment for her clients, helping them to ignite their full passion and align with their most authentic life path, by eradicating constricting beliefs, definitions, and self-limitations.  She is the author of a new book “Eat Your Words” Welcome to the Show Isabel

Isabel:

Thank you so much Ken for having me here. I’m so excited

Ken:

You’re welcome, yes me too. So, let’s go ahead and get right into this and talk about body shame and self-discovery.

Isabel:

Is that where we’re starting? My favorite subject. Okay, body shame is something that I don’t think I’m the only one that experienced it. I say that it’s something that is taught to us when we are younger. Whereas the things we do… I think things have shifted a lot with parenting lately, but I think that when we were younger, our parents if they didn’t like things, or if our parents didn’t think it was good for us, or if you’re not doing something according to their specifications, parents would call you out on it or bring it up. Then there would be this non-acceptance. It almost feels like it’s the behavior that has the non-acceptance, but it actually comes across to the child as non-acceptance of them, because as a child we don’t know the difference. We think that it’s us that are not accepted, right? So, I think that when you start to put on pounds when you’re at a young age or you’re eating in a certain way. In my family it was related to the way you ate and if you ate too much. So now all of a sudden that behavior is not acceptable and your family’s kind of watching you. Now as you continue on your path of nourishment, which is supposed to be the most nourishing years of your life, we start to develop this story that we carry for the rest of our life. I am just going to go back to the child in the book “Eat Your Words.” Because we start to develop our vocabulary that we internalize based on what our parents are saying to us. So now if I were to consciously eat, I’m really going through my own psyche and saying wait, should I have this, or should I not eat this. I mean it starts at an early age. So, it’s really actually about seeing ourselves in a certain way. Through the eyes of our parents or guardians or our loved ones, right?

Ken:

I have a bunch of experience with this also. I mean my wife deals with body shame and a number of family members who also deal with it. We actually have a foster daughter and I really have to be careful with the words I use. Because I do not want to put body shame onto her or words into her head. But I want to train her to take care of herself. There are just so many people who suffer from this. What do you think we can do?  

Isabel:

So, you want the solution. There is no easy answer because there is not a one-size-fits-all for anybody, right? Including myself, I mean, I almost didn’t write the book because I didn’t have a solution. The book is not written with a solution to it but to help people recognize that there are other people out there that feel exactly the same way that they do. I mean it’s really getting underneath everything like every instance or event in one’s life creates a certain feeling. Then from all of these events, we choose what we say to ourselves. I mean my choice… thank God I didn’t do drugs, but food can be a drug depending on how you use it right? So back to the solution question, I find down the path That I have to be very very conscious of what the words are when I have an emotion. Because there’s a lot of emotions that are associated with our behavior. How we eat, what we eat, and what we choose, are very associated with how we really feel about ourselves. If we were really to check into it right now there’s a lot of science going on about how different reactions, real chemical reactions, are affecting the brain. How they are causing different types of cravings. Dr. Amen does a whole study of it and he wrote a whole book on it. I’ve been studying with the Amen clinic also, on these types of cravings and these types of behaviors. Because they can become uncontrollable and it’s really based on foods, different foods create a lot of these cravings. If you start to eat sugar, by the way, sugar is the number 1 culprit in these cravings, so if we start to eat sugar then we crave more sugar. so, when something happens, we then want to eat something sugary. I do work with people to change behaviors and the consciousness of our thoughts is super key here. Also, I’m trying to retrain how I’m looking at the whole behavior and I now say to myself and train others on ways to nourish the brain. What kind of Vitamins and what kind of nutrients, because there are so many choices out there, to balance the brain out? Which will minimize the cravings. It’s a whole thing, It often backfires in our face. It has for both me, and for my character from my book, okay her name is Gianna Giovanni and she comes from an Italian family which focuses on food, right it is in the DNA. She goes through her life of dieting. Then things happen in her life, then she starts this diet and that one. There’s a lot of really funny stories in this book which people would say, it’s funny and they will laugh but then they will also understand underneath that behavior is something out of our control or kind of addictive. 

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order products or to join me is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

Check out the podcast for the rest of the conversation.

What is the best way for folks to connect with you?

Web: Isabel Chiara

FB: TheActualizer

Insta: @EatYourWordsBook

Twitter: @IzChiaraAuthor

Next time we will talk about… What set of financial rules do you play by?

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

What are My Fears, “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” – Thomas Carlyle

What are My Fears, “Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” – Thomas Carlyle
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What are My Fears, "Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment." – Thomas Carlyle
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it, leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a couple shout outs first to my follower Sebastian and to my Florida tribe they are picking up the pace. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Maybe you have a guess or you have attempted to put out a podcast before. Maybe you know or can guess how much work it is. I have been doing this podcast for over a year now. Four days a week.  I am going to change it up. The schedule will now be Tuesday and Thursday. It will still post at 5 am MTN. but starting today it will just be 2 per week. I’m grateful to you, my listeners. I hope this continues to make a difference in your life.  I have been working at this podcast for over 1 year. It is difficult to keep up with, and it is not where I was hoping it would be now. So, for now, it will be 2 days per week.

Putting yourself out there is difficult. It doesn’t have to be in a podcast. I’m sure you have put yourself out there in one way or another in the past. Maybe you found it difficult too. There are so many negative thoughts and stories that you and I can talk about your life, right? If you are like me it goes in waves. There are probably times when you feel confident and then there are other times when you don’t. Maybe your thoughts and stories are about your relationships. It could be about your job or business. Maybe you are locked in at a certain amount of money you earn and you struggle to make more. There are so many places that the story we tell ourselves drives what we see in our lives. It doesn’t matter if you make $1000.00 a month, or a million. Maybe you remain in a job position that you are good at but doesn’t fulfill you. If you are stuck it is because of the story you tell yourself and how confident you feel. There are so many people that tell a story that they are not in control of their lives. If something outside of them was better than their life would be better. If a parent would stop doing this, if they had insurance which would cover that. If they didn’t have to be responsible for their actions. So many people are looking for a scapegoat for their lives. Some people have told me that they can’t believe in God because if a God were all powerful then they would not allow for “bad things” to happen…

So, what we are talking about is confidence or “Swagger” as my friend Leslie Elm calls it. There is a big difference between confidence and arrogance. Confidence is a fairly quiet knowing. A trust in one’s abilities, qualities and performance. It is knowing what you are competent in. There is no comparison with others abilities in confidence. Just because you are exceptional at something doesn’t mean that there aren’t people out there that are equally skilled. Arrogance comes when we put our skills against others. When we judge how good or bad, they are in comparison to us, that is arrogance. Arrogance is much louder than confidence and it is boastful. Arrogance is what happens when the story we tell ourselves is that we must compete or win. Because of arrogance we think we must be better than others. Arrogance like all things comes at a cost. It is important to figure out what the costs are and whether you are willing to pay them. Telling a story that I am not good enough or that I don’t have the needed power to direct my life is arrogance. Arrogance can be “I am better than you” but it also includes those who look down on themselves. Finding your confidence or your swagger is important. Learning to pick between confidence and arrogance is important. Only in confidence are you 100% secure in your abilities.

What is wrong with feeling confident? Nothing, being Confident is amazing. You feel like you are on the top of the world. The question is then what brings true self confidence. How do we nurture it? Having confidence is great for mental wellbeing. It is possible to build confidence without arrogance. To do so you must nurture confidence without judgement or competition. Building confidence is an art form. So, let’s go over the things that it takes.

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order products or to join me is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

Today we started talking about fear which is the opposite of confidence. There are many fears that force us to play certain stories in our head. These stories affect our confidence and keep us stuck. Do you give up your ability to act and allow yourself to be acted upon? Is it that you think things outside of you will fix the parts that are broken inside? Confidence comes from a deep knowing of who you are and what you are capable of and can accomplish. Confidence comes from making correct decisions. It comes from looking inward not outward. Confidence drives out fear.

Here are some steps to develop confidence:

  • Attempt to do things you think are impossible… Get out of your comfort zone! Some of the things you try you will be able to do. Because you felt it was impossible and you did it It will build confidence in your abilities
  • List things that you have accomplished. Each night, write out a list of all the things you accomplished that day. As you look it over it will show the strengths and abilities you have.
  • Do the right things! When you do the right thing, it creates a sense of worth because the right thing is seldom the easy thing. Knowing that you did what is right will strengthen your 
  • Follow through… Actions create accomplishments, accomplishments create confidence!
  • Exercise, changes your physiology, it changes your emotions, it produces endorphins. It creates a different you.
  • Stand up for yourself… As Heath Ledger said in 10 Things, I Hate About YouDon’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want. Go for it.”
  • . Look at long term goals, passions, values
  • Change up your story, practice positive thinking.
  • Accept your emotions
  • Practice communication skills

If you are tired of suffering, beating up on yourself, overreacting, using avoidance tactics, breaking your word, and doing it over and over again; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “you have value program” If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself, fail forward and continue to try, or stop chasing comfort. I would love to help you to create who you are actually capable of becoming.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.

“Next time you’ll hear … Isabel Chiara and she will be telling us about her new book Eat Your Words.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Welcome to Thursdays Exchange with April Johnson

Welcome to Thursdays Exchange with April Johnson
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it, leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a shout-out to my follower Elana and to my Arizona Listeners. For sharing it with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Ken: We have April Johnson with us today. She is a cachet white woman using she/her pronouns. April has a gift to provide hope and help with life problems and events. She draws upon the wisdom or a deep knowing as well as her own life experiences. Those experiences have included poverty; deaths; divorce; unemployment; housing instability; college attempts; and most recently cancer with a broken back, related paralysis and disability. So many hospital trips due to serious treatment side effects, lingering symptoms, and chronic pain. April lived in a nursing home for a year and a half including during the first nine months of the covid-19. Welcome to the Show April. So, tell me of all those experiences, what experience did you have the toughest time with? 

April: The nursing home; housing is frustrating and that certainly plays into my nursing home experience. I don’t think there is anything in life that prepares us for living in a nursing home. Whether it is the traditional unit as someone in their 40 years or it is someone at the end of life, it is a whole different experience. 

Ken: Yeah, what was that like for you?

April: Sad, painful, it felt like I was on the island alone, and forgotten. My choices were very few. It is a system and the people who are taking care of me are making lousy wages and worried about how they’re going to pay their bills, take care of their family, and put food on the table. So, they’re not always in the best headspace to meet me or anyone else in that environment where we are. There are really high expectations as residents and patients to know things that we don’t and to behave and conduct ourselves in a way that is foreign to us. So, it is very isolating. 

Ken: Gotcha yeah it would be, okay now you have been through some really tough things what have those experiences taught you?

April: A lot of things, healing is a process, it is ongoing. It feels daunting at first because it is heavy, but it gets better over time; and there is a place where it becomes a joy. To heal and to recognize that we are healing, learning that healing can go deeper is actually very cool. It expanded empathy for me, you know we’re all human we are all going through things. Not talking about things makes us feel more isolated. Finding a community and connection is really difficult.

Ken: I get that, how important is that connection to us as humans?

April: I think it is paramount. The lack of connection as individuals is at the root of a lot of our problems and struggles. It is a problem as individuals and as collectives in the world. We are missing the mark of humanity in the other person that we are dealing or communicating with at any given moment in time.

Ken: Now when did you know it was time to make a change and how did you get there?

April: It’s been time to make a lot of changes. The biggest and the best example was the night that I was hospitalized. I had six weeks leading up to that to get to the required weight for having an MRI. By that time, I was beginning to have some tingling in my leg which led to the paralysis you mentioned. The Urgent Care I went to read the MRI and we are not touching this. They sent me off to the hospital for the neurology folks to look at. Then I had a moment to pause and connect to some of my friends that had been in the hospital. Something greater than me came through my body and had me say, this is not the end, this is a reset. I think I knew on some level at that point that there was cancer or something serious like it. I knew that my higher power was telling me, this is a redirect, this is the beginning of a new chapter in your books. I still don’t know fully what that is, or what it looks like. But I’m on the New Path and I’ve met death at least three or four different times on this journey.  But I am still here. 

Ken: Awesome I’m glad you’re still here because this is an amazing story. I mean we all get to go down a path and we get to learn and to grow. We are all here for a specific reason, there is something that we can share with the world. Right?

April: Absolutely, yes, we all have these beautiful gifts that are uniquely ours, they are uniquely personal to us. The world needs each and every one of those gifts and each and every single one of us. We are often so busy fighting amongst ourselves that those gifts are getting squander, wasted, or lost. Because of this the world is not evolving into the place that it needs to be. 

Ken: We see that, now more than ever, don’t we? 

April: I think that this last year and Covid was here for a higher purpose. It was for a spiritual purpose. It was here to help us wake up, to pause, and rest, for those who had the privilege to do that with stay home orders and to re-evaluate what is important to us and how do we really want to be living our lives? True to form as Americans we mucked it up, a lot. But it is still here and it did resonate for many people and that creates a ripple effect. Even though it feels like we are in so much turmoil and we are. 

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information to order product or to join me is all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

We are back with April Johnson. She has been talking about the poverty, death divorce, and health issues she has had to deal with. Please listen to the podcast for the rest of the interview where we talk about

How will your story help listeners change their lives for the better?

Tell me what accomplishments you’re most proud of:

Have you had to remove people, things, and habits from your everyday life, what were those and how did that help?

If there were only three ideas that you leave for this world and your posterity, what 3 ideas would you leave for them that could lead them to have an amazing life?

What is the best way for folks to connect with you?

April can be found by the username @ AskAprilJ on Twitter and Instagram. April’s email address is AJ.AskAprilJ@gmail.com.

“Next time you’ll hear what my fears are …

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

What Difference Does Hope Make?

What Difference Does Hope Make?
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it, leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a couple shout outs first to my follower Jamie and to my Virginia tribe. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Hope can carry us through the tough times when we have them. –Stephen King, Rita Hayworth in Shawshank Redemption said it this way. “Remember that hope is a good thing, Red, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.” There was a study done with rats in the 1950’s by Curt Richter, a professor at John Hopkins. The first group of rats were put in glass bowls of water. They swam for a few mins then gave up and drowned. The second group just before they would have given up and drowned were taken out of the water, held for a little while, let them recover and then put back in the water even though they only got picked up once, it made a big difference in their life expectancy. When he put them back in the water instead of minutes they swam for hours and hours. 

What is the take away? Here is what I want to talk about. When you feel supported by others, when you feel like you have been rescued from time to time when you needed it, or if you believe the future will be a better place. These things will help you through difficult situations.  They will provide hope. 

So, there is this thing called “Vroom’s Expectancy Theory of Motivation.” You might be asking if I can give you the lay version. What this says is that people are motivated by 3 types of situations.

  1. We are motivated when we value the reward associated with the action.
    1. If you are trying to get your kid to mow the lawn and the reward is $5.00. They may or may not value the reward enough to do the task.
  2. They trust that they will receive the reward if they do a good job.
    1. If they have done the job for you in the past and you forgot to give them the $5. Then this might be why they are unwilling to complete the job.
  3. They believe that they have the ability to achieve their objectives by working hard.
    1. If you ask this of a kid who weighs less than the lawn mower, then their belief might be the issue.

Being able to motivate people into completing a task is a skill that is highly sought after and paid big bucks for. Yet it all hinges around these three things. Is the reward something the person wants enough to actually pay the price for? For this you need to know the person. Been able to have them communicate what they value as a reward. Many people try to reward others with things that they, the person offering the reward values. This is a hit a miss way to motivate others. If the person you are trying to motivate does value that thing, then the motivation works. If not, you are probably standing around scratching your head and wondering, why won’t they do it.    

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information is to order or to join me ins all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

Today we have been discussing what a difference hope makes. I told you about a study done in the 1950’s with rats. Where they put some in a glass jar of water, they swam for less than 2 mins before giving up and drowning. The second group of rats when they were about to give up and die, they were taken out of the water and held, they were allowed to recover and then put back in the water. These rats then swam for many hours. We then talked about hope that comes from being supported or rescued and that it can help you to have a belief in the future. We also talked about motivation and how to motivate by providing a reward the person getting the reward wants.

Let’s go over the other two in more detail. The first one is that they trust that they will be rewarded if they do a good job. This is why your word is so important. You must be trustworthy to be able to motivate people to do what you want. Then number three is for them to believe that they can accomplish the work assigned to achieve their objective. These are ways that you can inspire or motivate others towards hope.

Hope is alive. It resides in the place where sadness, anguish and devastation bring the sentence of death. Hope looks forward. The future is what brings hope, for what is possible; the past is where we see the negative things that have happened to us. Hope builds and encourages. 

This world needs hope! There is a bigger shortage of hope and love than of water or anything else that we need on this earth. According to the United Nations we are in the middle of a human crisis. We have many things happening that are “firsts” in the history of the world. We are so connected and the earth is so small now that we can get info around the world simultaneously. There are things like the global health crisis which have never before been seen at this scale. A global recession of record dimensions. This is stressing out the human family and the social fabric is being stretched so thin it is tearing. We need a new set of tools to overcome situations that have never before been seen. We need love and hope. We need to work together in solidarity to overcome this crisis. We need to see each other with love no matter the different backgrounds or beliefs that we have. We need to find hope in each other and in the future for us to overcome this crisis. We need each other. It is so very important that we find ways to connect with love and create hope. 

Each of us needs to take part in this. We each need to share love and hope with all that we can contact. This is on such a global scale that it cannot be done without all of you! I hope you will take the opportunity to spread love and hope. 

Here are some ways you can spread love and hope:

  1. Be grateful and thank anyone who does something for you
  2. Spend time with people
  3. Smile at everyone that you see
  4. Pass on your knowledge and skills
  5. Love each other as you love yourself
  6. Give of yourself to help others
  7. Listen to others to find out what they think and believe
  8. Forgive those that wrong you
  9. Do an act of kindness
  10. Serve others
  11. Donate to a great cause
  12. Tell others how much they mean to you
  13. Make someone smile and/or laugh
  14. Give a hug
  15. Give out sincere compliments

If you are tired of suffering, beating up on yourself, overreacting, using avoidance tactics, breaking your word, and doing it over and over again; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “you have value program” If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself, fail forward and continue to try, or stop chasing comfort. I would love to help you to create who you are actually capable of becoming.  Contact me, 801-449-0750.

Next time you’ll hear about April Johnson and she will tell us about her difficulties with cancer and being in a nursing home…

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Do you Fight Wrong?

Do you Fight Wrong?
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Do you Fight Wrong?
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it, leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a couple shout outs first to Sebastian a follower and to my Florida tribe. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

Let’s suppose it is Friday and evening is coming on. You have a good idea what you will find when you get home and you are dreading getting there. You know the fight will be outrageous. It will boil over and last the whole evening. The feelings are already welling up as you get into the car. You drive home playing the same tape in your head over and over. You are feeling some frustration, not understood, and deep-seated annoyance. These are emotions and expectations you are familiar with as this argument has been going on and on. By the time you reach home you are nearly sick with the hurt and frustration you are feeling. You walk in the door and things are just as you expected. You feel this heat rise up in a wave that goes up and over your entire body making you hot under the collar as the saying goes. After the wave crashes over you. You get started; the other person is right there to meet you. They are ready to party! They match your language, tone and noise level and so you bring up areas where they have failed before. You are adept enough to be able to include a date and time stamp for them. They match you. You feel like you are not winning. You up the game, you continue to increase the attack in an attempt to back down your opponent. You know that you are right and if you can just get them to see it and back down things will be great. Your voice raises and the yelling continues. In it you question the persons family tree, you call them by different body parts, and talk about sexual acts and whom they should perform them on. The fight continues on in the same vein. Then in culmination. You just stop talking, you slam the door shut. Maybe this is a physical door or maybe it is just an emotional door. But one way or the other you have closed the other person out.

Have you ever had a fight like the one I described above? Maybe you only used some of the weapons here, not all. Pretty sure most of you can relate on some level to this story. When did the fight start? You might say when I entered the house, or maybe not till the yelling and name calling. But let’s look more closely. The fight started long before you walked into the house. In fact, in this case, it started before you got into the car. It started with the expectation that you put together as you contemplated going home. If you doubt me on this, I would love to have you send me a message on the Facebook page on an example of a fight that didn’t start as an expectation. They should have known or they should have done it differently. I have had expectations come hours before or right at the moment. But the unmet expectation is when the fight begins. The fight is about getting your expectations met. In this story, on the ride home as you played out the experience over and over again it was part of the fight that you had with yourself. Maybe even having discussions with the other person in your head complicated the matter or made the fight worse. I have never worked out a problem between me and someone else without them being a part of the solution. In the argument you have in your head do they ever get solved? Other people are usually more pigheaded in my brain than they are in person.

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information is to order or to join me ins all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

Today I asked the question do you fight wrong. In it I told a story of coming home loaded for bear because of an expectation. When we get home the expectation is then fulfilled and this heat wave smashes over us. Then we then start to raise our voice in an attempt to coerce the other person into our way. That doesn’t work so we up the game and start to blame or name call. We do all of this because there was an unmet expectation we had. This used to be a thing for me. I would be home before my wife when I left in the morning the kitchen was clean. I walk through the backdoor into the kitchen and the first thing I would see is these dirty dishes all over the counters and sink. At that point that heatwave washed over me. I expected my boys to clean up after themselves. I wanted to come home to a tidy kitchen. That heatwave would quickly spark a fire that not even a fire extinguisher could put out. I would start with yelling. I would include times that they had failed in the past. I had refused to get into name calling but that is the only place I drew the line.

These are some of the worst things that anyone can do during a fight. We talked about the weapons that can be used in a fight. But weapons mean things will get bloody and someone will get hurt. It should be noted here that abuse in any manner physical, emotional, mental, is never okay for one person to do to another. It is possible to hash things out without weapons. Doing this can create love and acceptance. The #1 thing to leave out of a fight is name calling. That is a hurt that you cannot take away. I would place name calling under abuse. It has no place in our relationships or our society. Name calling is hitting below the belt. Name calling does include obscenities but obscenities are not the only way to call someone a name. #2 is the silent treatment or cold shoulder. This is where you slammed the door shut. This leaves the conflict unresolved and leaves the other person alone and hurt. This is very damaging to the relationship and the person. Next #3 bringing up past mistakes or unrelated issues to distract and deflect. Bringing up irrelevant past mistakes is counterproductive and puts them on the defensive. #4 Your focus is on being “right” or “winning” instead of focusing on understanding what is going on and what feelings are happening. #5 Many of the things we say in an argument do not even come out of our mouth. The feelings we have such as anger, frustration, and pain come with a lot of energy. That energy often comes out in our body language. It can be things like avoiding eye contact, rolling eyes, hitting something inanimate, or showing contempt in our facial expressions. So, when you are working to hash out things be sure to note your nonverbal cues as well as the verbal ones you use.

Here are some things to use when working things out. 

  • Deep breathing
  • Sensory mindfulness (stress ball, stuffed animal)
  • Essential oil diffuser
  • Face the other person (relaxed posture, eyes soft)
  • Mirror the other person’s body language
  • Find common ground
  • Be empathic

If you are tired of suffering, if you want to be kinder to yourself and those around you; If you want to struggle less and feel love more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “You Have Value” program If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself then we need to talk. I would love to help you to create who you are capable of becoming.  Contact me, 801-449-0750.

Next time you’ll hear …What a Difference Hope Makes

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

You don’t Know What you are Missing!

You don’t Know What you are Missing!
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You don’t Know What you are Missing!
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it, leave your top takeaways, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a couple shout outs first to my follower Oliver and to my Washington tribe they still lead the pack. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

So yesterday was my 29th wedding anniversary. It looks like the number of those who are married for that long is in the 20% range. Now getting to this place was not easy. There have been multiple times my wife and I have discussed divorce. There were times when we hurt each other and times when we felt this isn’t what we signed up for. Over the years we have had fights, communication problems and arguments. We have at times lacked commitment. There has been distance and lack of physical intimacy in our relationship at times. Guess what in the 29 years both Eve and I have found that there are other people on this earth that we are attracted to. None of these things were abnormal for us and maybe not for you. None of these things stopped us from being married! Each time we hit a speed bump and talked about separating and didn’t as we worked on the relationship it deepened and became richer. It took us both to make changes and strengthen our marriage and keep it together for the last 29 years.

But the fact is I love her more today than the day I married her. I love everything about her! I love her support, her caring, I love how beautiful she is. I love all our memories. I love that she sees more in me than I sometimes see in myself. Each moment I get to spend with her is a joy. There is no one I would rather be with! There is no one out there that would be a better fit. The simple fact is there is no way to trade up. Evelyn is such a perfect fit for me. We love so many of the same things. But the thing is everything I have mentioned here is a choice. We both get to choose how we look at each other. I look at her as the most beautiful bride because it makes her and I happy to do so. I choose not to put any expectations on her and appreciate her for the many incredible things she does. Having a bunch of unmet expectations has made both of us unhappy when we did it. It is so great to be so understood and accepted by someone. But that has come with time. 

To create a healthy relationship there needs to be boundaries. In episode 223 about how we talked about setting up rules on how we wanted to be treated has been part of our relationship. We started setting them up when we were dating and we have renegotiated them as we have changed. But the most important thing is that we are following the rules that we set up.  Boundaries help you and your partner to feel loved and accepted. They tell others what makes it so that you can feel appreciated. Boundaries are for the protection of all involved. They can be set for physical, emotional, sexual, Intellectual, and financial needs. You are qualified to set up borders for each of these types of needs.  Boundaries have helped our relationship extensively. In setting up these boundaries’ communication is key. You must share with your partner what is and isn’t okay. If you are not sure what your boundaries are or if you are unable to communicate it clearly then it is next to impossible to have your needs met. It is important to set up and follow ground rules to have a healthy relationship.

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information is to order or to join me ins all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

Today we are talking about my 29th wedding anniversary with Evelyn. We talked about how much I love and appreciate her. There is no one in the world that is a better fit for me than this beautiful woman. She is the most amazing person and I love each minute with her. Then we talked about how relationships need boundaries and what types of boundaries they are. In order to have a great relationship you need to have well defined boundaries and be able to communicate them clearly. 

Talking about building an amazing relationship. What else besides boundaries are needed? The first thing that must happen is you must accept your partner as they are. There is nothing I want Evelyn to change because of me. She is perfect for me just the way she is. This is one of the things I choose. I choose to accept her and want her the way she is or the way she chooses to be.  It is not that this is always easy, sometimes I have to check my expectations. My unmet expectations destroy whatever part of my life that I have the expectations about. So I then choose to let go of expectations and accept Evelyn as she is. Accepting her also means loving and supporting her in her ways and beliefs. I am so grateful that she does this for me. Because of her acceptance there is no need of nagging because of her acceptance of who I am.

One of the things we learned at around 11 years of marriage, this was during a difficult point in our marriage, was to express appreciation often. This saved our marriage at this point in time. What it does is help you to see each other’s helpfulness. It helps you to assign value to their contribution. They strengthen romantic connections. It makes people happier. Signs that you need to work on helping your partner feel appreciated may be that they don’t share their opinion. They are quieter than they had been. They make plans without consulting you. They appear more distant. These things all show that your marriage is lacking appreciation in one another. You can control only yourself, so choose to act differently. Start to show appreciation for your partner.

I want to tell the world as well as my beautiful bride how wonderful she is and how much I appreciate her. These 29 years have been a roller coaster ride. Where we have crawled up hills slowly and steadily. As we have peered over the edge at the top it has brought excitement and some fear. We have plummeted down the hills. Turned this way and that not always knowing which way the ride would go next. There have been times as it went up and down that some people might have lost their lunch. Some maybe would have gotten off the ride. There are times it went upside down. Many people would have put one hand on their mouth and another up in the air to get the attendant to stop the ride. I am so grateful that I did not! I would not change even one min with Evelyn for anyone else. I love how talented Evelyn is at so many things. I love that people come to her to talk. She is a leader of people even though she doesn’t want to be one at work. I love how she makes our house feel comfortable and look beautiful. I “so” love how she looks at me. I am so grateful that she continues to pick me day in and day out. For those of you who don’t know my beautiful bride you are missing out. She is so incredible!

If you are tired of suffering, if you want a better relationship, if you want to feel more acceptance and love in your life. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “You Have Value” program.  If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself. I would love to help you to create who you are capable of becoming.  Contact me, 801-449-0750.

“Next time we’ll talk about…do you fight wrong?

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Welcome to Thursday’s Exchange with Di Snarr

Welcome to Thursday’s Exchange with Di Snarr
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put it in the private Facebook group.

Ken: We have Di Snarr on the show today. She Owns a “Touch of Healing” Kinesiology Di and I met on LinkedIn and it was just amazing. I was very moved by her story and I know you will be too. Di was on a podcast called “Just Interesting People” which was an awesome interview. Welcome to the show. What is the toughest thing you have had to overcome in your life?

Di: There were a lot of tough things I had to deal with. I think the top one is abuse, first being abused by others, and then because of that, I would abuse others, just in my interactions with them. Like at school when I was a kid or my siblings, and then I abused myself. The way I was, isolated me, so then I would abuse myself. It was a rough road to learn how to get out of those experiences.

Ken: You said you abused yourself. I mean I think all of us can relate to that.  But how did that look for you?

 Di: I was very promiscuous for a few of my teenage years between the age of 14 – 17. Some people would say being promiscuous, that’s not a problem. But when you’re doing it in a sense that you’re trying to continue old abusive habits. That’s where the problem is. When you have those experiences when you have any kind of sexual experience. Whether it’s by yourself or someone else or you’re looking at pornography or anything and anything of a sexual nature. Your body releases hormones and chemicals that connect you to that experience and so it affects you for your life. So, for those who experience abuse that way it takes such deep healing. It takes a long time to heal, for some people they may never heal. 

Ken: Yeah, when you are abused, they take your boundaries and they blow him up, right? 

Di: Yeah, you’re violated, you’re damaged, you’re never the same. It affects you on every level; spiritual, physical, emotional, and mental and then however many levels each of those contain. So, you know if you’re a religious person that can help with your spirituality, then for your emotional support you have to see a therapist. Then for physical, you never feel clean. It’s so damaging especially when it happens so young, and that’s all you know, it’s normal.  You eventually learn it hasn’t happened to everyone around you and then you see them as clean. Now kids are so intuitive, so when I was in school the kids could sense there was something different. They couldn’t put a name to it or understand it unless they had a similar experience. You know they don’t know what to call it, but then they could sense the energy coming off of me. They don’t know what to do with it, so I was relentlessly teased, I tied up at recess and they would throw rocks at me. It was a vicious cycle from the beginning until I met my husband. When we met, I told him everything about my life, cuz I didn’t want any secrets. I didn’t want anybody to come to him and say “did you know this about her?” or like “this is who she really is.” or whatever. I was upfront with him, and it’s not something that he learned growing up, cuz he didn’t have an easy time either. But he discovered some things and then taught me that really helped me to come out of that. I was then able to learn what kind of things are acceptable, what’s not acceptable, and how to love myself.

Ken: You said the abuse started early, when did it start?

Di: I learned last December, while I was doing the meditation at a metaphysical shop. During this meditation, I wasn’t expecting it but I came up with the memory of the abuse that happened when I was a baby. This is the first time I was raped. O did have that confirmed by a family member so that was true.

Ken: You know there are so many people who have gone through this. right? I mean rape and abuse is rampant now. 

Di: It happens much more than people want to admit even and then when it happens to your family you don’t want to admit that it’s done to your family member whether it be your brother, your kid, or you know whoever. I want to be open about these things, so people have the courage to stand up and say hey this happened to me. This could even lead them to get the support and healing they need.

Ken: I talked to you earlier about your show on just interesting people and after hearing that I shared it with my foster daughter and she has been abused and is working on overcoming it. So, I shared that with her and she really learned some good things from that. She was really appreciative of that interview.

Listen to the podcast for the full interview

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ The information is to order or to join me ins all on the website. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

We are back with Di Snarr from “Touch of Healing” Kinesiology. She has been telling us about how she was abused and how she overcame it.

We also talked about:

What tools helped you to get to where you are now?

What was your top priority in beginning a change for the better?

If there were only three ideas that you leave for this world and your posterity, what 3 ideas would you leave for them that could lead them to have an amazing life?

What is the best way for folks to connect with you? personalpathways1111@gmail.com

Di, I want to recognize you. You have done the work of looking at what has happened to you and changing the thoughts and story that you created. You now share your story with others to help them change their story. That takes great strength and courage.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

Another Night Without Much Sleep

Another Night Without Much Sleep
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Another Night Without Much Sleep
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group.  I want to give a couple of shout-outs first to my follower Lach and my Florida tribe. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

I hope you’ll bear with me this week My podcast may not be as long or maybe not as good. It has been a tough week. You know I work to be truthful with you, my friends. It hasn’t been that long since I told you I was having a tough time, but I’m going to tell you that again today. It has been a rough couple of days. I didn’t get much sleep last night. I woke up at 4:30 and was stressed out, my mind moving over and over on things that happened the day before that I couldn’t change or do anything about. I’m betting that some of you have been there. When those times hit what do you do? Last night I tried mindfulness. I tried to focus on my breathing. After 30 mins of working on that, I got up out of bed. My bed is for sleeping if that is not going to happen then I get out. There were quite a few different options when I got out of bed. I don’t know about you but when I woke up like that, I was not in the mood to start working. So instead, I started watching tv, spent time with one of my favorite shows. Now I don’t need to put a judgment on it it was not a good thing to do, nor a bad one. It did stop the noise in my head. It distracted me from the things I couldn’t get out of my head. How long has it been since your stress has affected your sleep?

So why does this happen? Most adults need between 7 and 9 hours of sleep. I’m in the 8-hour club. There are many reasons you can be suffering from sleeping difficulties, include things like habits, lifestyle, medical conditions, medications, and thought processes. Behaviors that can affect your sleep are too much stimulation before bed. Things such as TV, video games, exercising caffeine, noise disturbances, and light also affect sleep. Some of the other things that affect sleep are physical pain, prescription medications, or frequent urination. Then there are also sleep disorders: Apnea, circadian rhythm, narcolepsy, restless leg. Sleep is also affected by stress, depression, work, and the amount of exercise done. So how is your sleep and what affects it? Why are you getting the sleep you are getting?

What problems can a lack of sleep cause? High blood pressure, diabetes, heart attacks, heart failure, or stroke. Did you know that lack of sleep can lead to premature wrinkling, obesity, and lower sex drive? That’s a good enough reason to get enough sleep, right?

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ Then if you would like to become a business partner contact me. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

So today we are talking about sleep. I had a bad night last night got almost 5 hours of sleep. Not enough. Woke up and couldn’t get back to sleep. Tried my usual processes and they didn’t work. Now luckily for me, this is not a normal occurrence. Most nights I sleep pretty well; at least if I’m not sleeping on a backpacking pad. I’m not as good at sleeping on the ground as I used to be. Most nights I wake up after about 7 to 8 hours of sleep. But last night there was some stress going on in my life. I often can control it better than I did yesterday. I am pretty careful about my lifestyle, habits, TV, light, and noises. So, I usually sleep well. But last night was different. But because of the health problems associated I work hard to get the correct amount of sleep.

Sleep has four stages: that we cycle through. There is “REM through “Deep” sleep. Your body and mind need to process through these uninterrupted or you will probably feel tired or have trouble concentrating. Not getting the right amount or all stages of sleep affects both our physical and mental health in a big way. We need to make sure that we get through all stages of sleep uninterrupted. 

What are some things we can do to get better sleep? First off treat getting enough sleep is important. Sleep often seems like the thing that is easiest to change and at the bottom of the list of your priorities. It is so easy to stay up late. Our bodies will at one point of the day start to slow down. You will start to yawn. This is the body’s way of preparing for sleep. Now if we stay up past the time when this happens, we get a second wind. That can keep us awake for quite a while.

Number 2 and we have talked about this in other episodes but be consistent in what time you get up and go to bed. It should be close to the same every day of the week. Within 30 mins. I know if I wake up later than normal then the next night, I will have trouble getting to sleep. 

Then number 3 is put away electronics and at least 30 mins beforehand. The blue lights that emit from phones, tablets, computers, TVs all tell your body it is daytime. Do not pick up your phone during the night. Not even to check the time. If you, do it is very likely to start your mind thinking and make it harder or impossible to get back to sleep. 

Many people would rather stay up and play or watch something rather than sleep. But for the reasons we described above it is important to get the sleep your body needs. Downtime and sleep time are not the same and the body doesn’t get what it needs from downtime.

If you are tired of suffering, tired of beating up on yourself, if you overreact; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “you have value program” If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself. I would love to help you to create who you are capable of becoming.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

How do you Learn New Things?

How do you Learn New Things?
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How do you Learn New Things?
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put them in the private Facebook group. I want to give a couple of shout-outs first to Ethan a follower and to my Alaska tribe they are climbing the charts. I appreciate them for sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Now, Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

So, the Dalai Lama XIV said, “When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.” Do you know someone that loves to hear the sound of their own voice? Someone that likes to talk and will tell you everything that they can think of? They want to share with you their viewpoints on every subject. Then there are then others who love to listen. When we listen to understand and not just to reply we can communicate more with others. Maybe you have heard the quote you have two ears and one month. Follow that ratio. Listen more, talk less. Successful people learn by listening. 

Richard Branson has said, “Great listeners are often terrific at uncovering and putting in place strategies and plans that have a big impact.” why is it that listeners can put into place strategies and plans? Because when they listen, they get information that they didn’t have before. That information can help them to learn what it is that they need to make a decision and act on it. The only reason to listen is if you need to learn. If you know everything that needs to be known there is no need to listen. 

Listening is an active process where patience, compassion, and determination play critical roles. In order to absorb words and process the meanings, we need to concentrate. Listening promotes better relationships. It assists in building trust, resolving issues, and strengthening ties. Hearing something is not the same as listening to people. The other day I was interacting with a family member on Facebook and I probably shouldn’t have. But I commented on their post and it was not something that we agree on. They hear my comment but didn’t listen to it. They attacked my statement with something that didn’t have anything to do with my message. So, they hear that I talked but didn’t listen to what I said. They were talking so they were repeating things they already know. I have listened enough to know that my ideas disagreed with theirs, so sharing my thoughts in that medium is where I made a mistake.

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ Then if you would like to become a business partner contact me. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

Today we are talking about the Dalai Lamas quote about listening to be able to learn. We talked about how Richard Branson says listening makes a big impact. People who talk do not receive new information. We talked about how important listening is and how it helps you to make better decisions. When hearing there is no need to be able to recap or to work to understand. Many people only hear with the intent of answering with their ideas or beliefs.

But true listening develops communication skills. Communication is kind of a lost art, especially with social media. It is so easy to hear without listening and then react and attack those that state something different. This reminds me of another experience. Another family member was at work and someone came into the office and they had loaded for bear. They were upset and knew that this family member would not agree with them. So, they came in arguing. They for quite a while did not even recognize that the person, they were arguing with actually agreed with them from the get-go. Here again, they hear but didn’t listen. I’m sure you have stories about how this has happened to you also.

Listening is an important skill. Like we talked about in an earlier episode, skills can be learned. To become an excellent communicator, you must first start listening with your eyes, ears, and mind open. Communicating is not just about getting your point across but about learning the points others have.

In what ways can you be more active in listening? 

  1. Maintain eye contact; It is hard to have your mind wander if you are looking someone in the eye. 
  2. Don’t grab one thought or sentence and then react to it.
  3. Ask questions about the thought or idea that expressed. Listening helps to gather facts.

If you are tired of suffering, tired of beating up on yourself, overreacting, if you use avoidance techniques; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “you have value program” If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself. I would love to help you to create who you are capable of becoming.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

What is a Body? Advice from a dying man

What is a Body? Advice from a dying man
Your Amazing Life
Your Amazing Life
What is a Body? Advice from a dying man
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Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. It would help if you subscribe to us and leave a rating/ review, in it leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, and also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put it in the private Facebook group.

I want to give a couple of shout-outs first to my follower Bel and to my Washington state tribe. I appreciate them, growing and sharing the podcast with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.

I want to start with a quote, this was posted on Reddit byu/mylasttie wrote “We care so much about the health and integrity of our body that until death, we don’t notice that the body is nothing more than a box- a parcel for delivering our personality, thoughts, beliefs, and intentions to this world. If there is nothing in the box that can change the world, then it doesn’t matter if it disappears. I believe we all have potential, but it takes a lot of courage to realize it.” I love this thought. I love the Epiphany behind it. This kind of takes me back to Memorial Day. I have a tradition of going to the cemetery and putting out flags on the graves of veterans. As I walked around and read the gravestones, I was hit by what people put on gravestones. Many had not only the birth and death dates but the number of years they lived. If it was 6, 36, or 106 that tells so little of a person. Then this was one that I just haven’t figured out. On the headstone, it stated “world-class marketer.” Really that was the most important thing about his life? It reminded me of putting your face and name on a park bench. Now he’s marketing to those visiting the dead. What is it that you are doing with this box while you have it?

I want to share a poem by Ron Tranmer called The Dash Between. “I knelt there at the headstone of one I love and cried. The Names, with dates of birth and death, were perfectly inscribed. I pondered these two dates and how little they both mean when compared to the tiny dash that lies there in between. The dash serves as an emblem of our time here on the earth, and although small, it stands for all our years of life, and worth. And our worth will be determined by how we live each day. We can fill our dash with goodness, or waste our life away. To ourselves, as well as others, let’s be honest, kind, and true, and every day, live the way we know God wants us to. May we look for opportunities to do a worthy deed, and reach out with compassion to those who are in need. For If our hearts are full of love throughout our journey here, we’ll be loved by all who knew us and our memory they’ll hold dear. And when we die, these memories will bring grateful, loving tears, to all whose lives were touched.” What will be left behind in your dash? Cause the dash that is what is important. The dates will come and go with or without us. But what is it that is in the box that made a difference for someone else? This is a much-needed message for this time. There are so many people out there in this world filling their dash up with amazing actions. Some who are young and saved others from car fires or kidnapping, another Nicholas Winton who died at age 106 back in 2015, among other things in his dash he saved 669 children from the holocaust. There are many that we look at and we admire what they did with their dash.  Those like Nicholas Winton learned pretty early on that his body was just a box or parcel. If its only job is to deliver our personality, thoughts, and beliefs to this world. How is your body doing? Do your ideas, thoughts, get shared with the world? How many people have you saved? It may have been as easy as reaching out and saying hello and wishing someone a good day. Probably you have no idea how many you saved and that is okay. What is important is that you try each day to save at least one person. It is important that you use your body to share your personality. If you intend to make a difference in the life of someone and you act on your intent you will be able to see it fulfilled. 

We have talked about the importance of nutrition in many of our episodes. I have found a clinically proven product that I drink one packet a day and it gives my body all the micronutrients I need. This is an all-natural product you will love. The packet is filled with superfoods and all their nutrients. Best of all it comes with a 100% Money back guarantee, so there is no risk. Many doctors are now recommending this. Start your day as I do with a packet of nutrition. You are going to want to try this. Go to https://kengerber.kyani.com/ Then if you would like to become a business partner contact me. Join me in having Kyani each day to improve your health!

We are talking about the body and how it is just a parcel. Its importance is its ability to deliver our personality, thoughts, and beliefs to this world. What matters isn’t when we come to this earth nor when we leave it. What matters is what we do with the in-between of those dates. What do we pursue? Do we get out the message that is inside of you? If we die with the message still inside there is no bigger waste. If there is nothing in you that gets out to change the world then you have failed. If your body’s job is to deliver personality, thoughts, and beliefs to this world How do you accomplish that?

Well, some of it depends on why you are here and what is important to you. But we are going to start with some things that are universal. First off is to find joy. You can find joy in following the natural laws of this earth. Natural laws are laws that are outside of morals and mores. They are outside of religion. They are based on this universe and it is impossible to refute them. It doesn’t matter whether or not you believe in gravity, it works. It doesn’t matter if you believe in the law of attraction, it works. Just like all the other natural laws. I will list a couple but there are many more. There are laws of Karma, attraction, forgiveness, and receiving. These are just a few that I choose. They are not the only ones, nor are they the most important. They are just examples to get you thinking along the same lines. Successful people become successful by applying natural law. True joy comes from following these laws. Let us say we don’t follow the law of Karma and we treat someone poorly. When we then are treated in a way that karma extends, we will not be joyful. Following natural laws brings us joy.

The second universal truth is service. We are built as a group to be part of a family. We desire those ties. The way to strengthen those ties is through service. It doesn’t matter who you serve. It doesn’t matter where you serve. It only matters that you serve. You will learn to love and care for those that you serve. You will be paid dividends that you never expected from your service. Check out Just Serve.org to find service opportunities near you that can help you to do good and feel good. We as human beings we build unity through community service. We are in need of unity in the world today. The answer to some of our problems is service to one another. When you serve others both you and the person you served are blessed.  

The next universal truth is gratitude. Showing gratitude changes our lives so much. It is a simple act but it makes such a large change. Gratitude is a state of mind. It is the cornerstone of living a mindful life. Gratitude is a tool that helps you to achieve happiness, peace, and wellbeing. Gratitude becomes an offering to anything that you believe in. Gratitude is about paying it forward. Sociologist Georg Simmel calls this act “the moral memory of mankind” in his book. Here are some ways to practice gratitude. Start a gratitude journal or jar, write a letter to someone sharing what you are grateful for. Gratitude is an important tool to maintaining optimal mental physical and emotional health. 

It is important to find out what the dash in the middle is about for you. Maybe it will be marketing for you just like the guy’s headstone. Just make sure that you use marketing to get out your story. To get out your personality, thoughts, beliefs, and intentions to this world. I didn’t get it but I hope he did. I hope the dash was meaningful to him and I hope yours is meaningful to you. 

If you are like the many others who struggle with the meaning and the reason you are here. If you are tired of suffering; If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want a truly amazing life that is connected and complete, you need the “you have value program” If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself. I would love to help you to create who you are actually capable of becoming.  Contact me, ken@creatingyouramazing.life.

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I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. My friends, this blog is about you. If something I said resonated with you, I would love to hear about it. By following me you get to hear about me, my dreams, my goals. You get to know me, hear what I’m thinking and learning about. Well, I want to hear from you. I want to know what is going on for you. The ways you can tell me about what you are learning about and going through are #1 you can talk with me on the Facebook Group or #2 set up a time to talk with me so you can tell me about who you are and what you want. #3 Sponsor some of the episodes that have made the biggest difference for you. #4 If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this podcast and leave a rating and review. I would love to discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!