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The whole point of this podcast is to help you build a life that you dream of. I am giving out tips and tricks every day. Today I want to get to some basics. There are four things that are required for you to have in order for you to build the life that you want! So, let’s look at them.
The first is Competence. Competence means you have the ability to do something well. In life it is important to be able to perform a task or project effectively. Now some people have competence due to God given talents. Others develop competence through practice and study to develop those skills. It doesn’t matter how you gain the competence. Competence is straightforward and transparent. If you want to become competent at something that is not a talent, you can by study and practice. Now if you choose competencies that build on talents it takes less time and can move you farther ahead. For example; I played piano growing up I developed a little skill, but I had no talent for it. My fingers did not fit well and I would never be a concert pianist. Not even I believe with the number of hours that a concert pianist has to put in. I do have talent in figuring out why people do the things that they do and how to get something different out of life when we want it. But I have both talent and skills in those subjects. The talent came naturally, but the skills I worked at and honed. I could have spent more time at the piano and become more competent.
The second one is Confidence. Confidence in yourself will help you to level up. It is the knowledge that provides a feeling of security. Being confident requires a realistic sense of your capabilities. You need to have confidence that you can handle any emotional outcomes that you may face. Now confidence is often task specific. I feel very confident in my ability to put out a podcast. I am not at all confident that I can fix a car. My confidence can come from my competencies. But this is not required, some people are very competent but don’t feel that way. They always question their competence and they do not develop any confidence. The problem is people will first look to our confidence to see if we are capable. Then after a time of watching us they will form their own opinion but it will still be tainted by the belief they saw in us. So having confidence in our abilities is very important to help us feel safe and secure. Confidence is important, when we have it for ourselves others look at us differently.
Welcome back today we are talking about the four traits required to develop an amazing life. We talked about needing competence. Which is getting good at things. Getting competent can come either from talents or skills that are developed. The second thing you will need to have an amazing life is confidence. Confidence can come from knowing a competency and feeling secure in your ability to complete the job.
The third thing is Choice. You need the freedom to act in the thing that you have competence and confidence in. If you are unable to choose to do something you are good at you will not have a great life. There are some things that people are somewhat competent in and they develop confidence around them because of the competence. But at times they are things that have been chosen for them. Maybe they were chosen for them by a spouse or parent, maybe they were chosen for them by circumstances. It doesn’t matter if you are doing something that you are competent and confident in but you didn’t have the freedom to choose. It is likely that you will not be as happy as you would be if you had the ability to choose what you did. Choice is a big part of creating an amazing life.
Number four is Connectedness. Many of us have been missing this as of late. Maybe you have seen a dip in your happiness that has corresponded with your lack of connectedness. According to Stanford Medicine a strong social connection leads to a 50% increased chance of longevity. They also have lower levels of anxiety and depression. It is not about the number of friends that you have you could have 1,000 and yet feel disconnected from them. Or you could have 3 friends and feel very connected. This last year it has been very difficult for people to connect. This goes back to episode 202 and the reason to be around positive people. They can increase your sense of connection. But the bottom line is you can determine whether or not you feel connected. Think about the time you or another child you saw ran up to and started to play with children they didn’t know yet they fit right in. They felt connected. Build this sense of connection by taking care of yourself, doing acts of kindness for others, and asking others for help. Increase your feeling of connectedness even during this difficult time.
If you do not feel confident, or do not know how to build competencies, if you want help building boundaries so you have the freedom to choose, or if you want to increase your connectedness. If you want to struggle less and enjoy more. If you want to feel connected and complete, you need the “you have value program.” If you are willing to make some changes, be kind to yourself, and continue to try, or stop chasing comfort. I would love to help you to create who you are actually capable of becoming. Contact me.
Next time you’ll hear my interview with Christopher Salem about Mastering Your Inner Critic…
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