Today is Thursday’s Exchange with Tyler Watson

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Your Amazing Life
Your Amazing Life
Today is Thursday's Exchange with Tyler Watson
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Ken:

Tyler is an incredible award-winning life coach, a marketing strategy Guru, and he is fantastic at developing the sales process in people. Welcome Tyler it’s great to have you with us today. 

Tyler:

Thanks Ken, yeah good to be here

Ken:

In Monday’s podcast we talked about learning to sail a ship and how it takes wind and waves to sail. So, what struggles in your life have helped you to get to where you are?

Tyler:

Man, well I would say every single struggle that I’ve ever been through got me to where I am today and specifically some of the bigger ones, like earlier on, was actually my parents’ divorce and during that time. I didn’t think of it as a struggle as a kid, I was 12 yrs. old. I just thought hey they got a divorce that’s how it works, but growing up I was like founded and grounded in family and faith and then to have it all the sudden just ended in a divorce, out of the blue. I didn’t even know they were arguing or they were upset. So, I felt I took on this personal responsibility that I did something wrong that I could have done something to prevent that and that was really tough. I ended up struggling with worst things and going through depression, from about 12 to 18 years old, suicidal tendencies, pornography addictions, video game addictions, and just struggling to tell the truth. Like I did those things but I never told anybody. I thought I just had to pretend and act like the perfect kid and do all the things that everybody tells me to do. I felt like I was wearing this mask and even though I got good grades, was class president and VIP and I got MVP in high school, and all the stuff. I thought what is the whole point? Because at the end of the day I felt very disconnected, unheard, and unloved. I felt like guilt, shame, and all of this weight of my life on me. Yet what people saw was something completely different. So that was I would say some of the big struggles there. Then as I left home, I went on a two-year church mission and felt like man this is amazing, totally had some huge struggles there, trying to work with my companions and stuff. But it was good. All that grew me to get to the point where then I started to struggle financially. So, my first year as an entrepreneur, I was a massage therapist and studying to become a doctor of natural medicine. I made like $12,500 and it was hard plus that was when I first got married, so I had to provide for a family and everything. It was not ideal, that was a struggle, then trying to grow a coaching business and failing over and over and over. Really sucking at sales and not wanting to talk to people, like all those things were struggles. But I had to go through them, because no matter how many courses I took I needed to change. I needed to confront myself to become the person capable of actually attaining the results. Yeah, since then we’ve seen some amazing things and been able to write a book, I’m working on my second book now. After that year and getting over the transition, I did over six figures and was able to get my wife her grand piano, and so many things. I spoke for Ted McGrath and Les Brown and went all over the country and Canada, did some amazing stuff. But I couldn’t or wouldn’t have done that if I didn’t go through the struggles where I would literally go out drive. I was in a tiny town of Branson, Missouri. There’s nobody there really, so I drove to the other town knocking on doors literally trying to sell stuff that I have created and I had no guidance. I was just like, I got to talk to people, I have to enroll them. Talk about rejection, talk about just feeling crappy. Yeah so, I went through it and definitely put in the time and I have so many of those stories. But it’s what got me to the point of not allowing people to… not allowing judgments of people to stop me. Not allowing my own mind chatter to stop me, and being able to do whatever it takes to attain the goals.

Ken:

So, I was talking about mind chatter. In fact, I do that a lot because it is such a big deal for so many of us. Tell me more about that?

Tyler:

 Mind chatter people think that it’s just in the mind and what we don’t realize is that our thoughts and emotions are so connected, our body can generate mind chatter. So, every organ, every gland, every cell, in our body can actually generate the emotions. Which then can trigger the thoughts and so a lot of people try to train their mindset or brain. But I like to try to train both body and mind because you can work a lot on the mind but if you ignore what the body signals are sending, the fears and doubts that the body has then you will feel disconnected. You will become off balance and my game is staying balanced. So, if I’m doing something and I have all this mind chatter of doubts or uncertainties, I also know that somewhere in my body is off and I need to address that in my body. When I do that, the mind chatter can go away. so, you can address it from the mind and you can address it from the body. I like to go both ways because then it is just faster and more efficient. 

Ken: 

Yes, Great Tell us a little more on how you do that?

Tyler:

Yep, so good question, well back when I first started, I was all into the mind. Like let’s focus on the mindset, the mindset the mindset. Then as I realized the body’s role in our results, I started to drive a lot into things like EFT, tapping, and that showed me that hey the body is involved in how we think and what we feel and what we do. I worked on myself a lot through that. I did a lot of other techniques, like almost invested almost half a million dollars in the past 6 or 7 years, in different processes, personal development, and growing myself. I’ve done that for perspective, because I know that I’m on this mission to experience things at a very fast level. So that I can go and help people do it at a lot faster level than I have. One of the best ways is the abundant alignment technique previously known as the complete alignment technique. It basically goes in, and how it works is; in our bodies we have what’s called fight or flight responses. (AKA allergies and addictions.) So, when I have a goal, something I want to go toward my body’s interpretations of that goal… Let’s say it’s a certain amount of money, maybe I want to make $30,000 in a month, or whatever. I’m like “okay” $30,000. In a month! But maybe I tried that and didn’t get it or $10,000 a month. What happened is maybe I got burnt out, maybe I got rejected, maybe I failed, maybe it got really hard, or maybe I experienced some form of pain. What happens is that pain is then associated with the goal, so now when I go get back on my game and I’m like no this is the time I’m going to set my goal and I’m going to attain it. What we don’t realize is that our body still has these interpretations from our past. So, I’m like let’s go make $30,000 my body, and it could be any part of your body, your heart, any organ, any gland, or your cells. It can even the brain. If I say I’m going to go make $30,000 part of me like my adrenal glands might be interpreting that and saying “RUN” this requires a lot of pain. You are going to get hurt if you try to do this. Let’s kick on the adrenaline and run from this thing. So, as we set the goals all parts of our bodies are having different responses to that goal, based on our past perceptions. This creates a lot more usage of energy, so we feel more tired, we feel more overwhelmed, more burnt out. Because the moment we go for a goal if our body is fighting it, literally allergic to it, we’re using all that energy to protect ourselves. When that energy could be used for attaining that goal, so that’s the allergic response. The addicted response is what we feel secure with. So, let’s say I want to make $30,000 but maybe I’ve only made 10 and the 10 feel safe. The 10 feels good, the 10 feels normal, so my body is actually addicted to the $10,000 frequency and energy. To where that represents safety, ease, peace or whatever. It might be we’re just addicted to that frequency because our body knows it, it feels comfortable. Our body will start to fight what it doesn’t know, so that the allergic response, and it’ll hold on to what we do know, which is the addictive response. You can be addicted to good things; you can be addicted to negative things so it’s not about whether it is negative or positive. It’s just about what you want and what you don’t want. That’s the first piece just acknowledging what that is. Then if you want, I can go in and show you a little bit about how to actually shift it. but I just want to make sure that makes sense like the fight-or-flight responses and the allergies and addictions.

Ken:

Yep, that makes total sense.

Ken:

So, you were just talking about how we get stuck in our goals and we can’t achieve them because we get stuck in pain and either the fight or flight. So, you were telling us about what else was there to go through.

Tyler:

Yeah, so that’s the first part is the acknowledging of the fight-flight, right? So, recognizing that we have allergies and addictions. The big question is will how do I change it up? We all realize that it is there that it sucks, that it’s not ideal. The big question is how do we change it? There’s a technique that I developed called the abundance alignment technique. The full version is a lot more complicated and in depth than what I’m about to do. But you can do this, anybody can, even my five-year-old does this. We’ve seen people who have doubled their income, we have seen people who have gotten rid of cataracts or glaucoma in their eyes, we’ve seen people who have gotten rid of allergies like gluten, soy, lactose, all sorts of different crazy stuff. Then to having more clients come to them. Others getting out of addictions toward vaping or alcohol, we’ve seen all sorts of stuff. So how does it work and I just want to share the basics. That way anybody can do it. So, it’s very simple, this is called the intuitive form of the alignment technique. Basically, for all you do is want to acknowledge the negatives and the positives and then do the alignment, and I’ll go through what that looks like. Let’s say it’s a relationship goal and maybe I want to have a better connection with my spouse, but maybe my spouse might argue and we’re fighting, or she says or does something and it triggers me.  Then it makes me feel angry or upset and I just want to withdraw and go to my man cave or whatever it might be. When that happens the body is interpreting whatever is happening, right? So, it’s either fighting or flying from this thing. So, my job is to recognize that, and say “okay right now is not ideal” and how I’m responding is not good, something in my body or in my mind is interpreting and reacting. So, I’m going to look at this scenario and look first at the negatives and say oh when my wife told me that I should have done and I hadn’t. I got reactive and wanted to leave the situation. So negative thoughts, and negative emotions I’m going to address those and I’m going to voice them out loud. Because the moment you voice it, it’s going to cause that negative reaction to re-stimulate. It’s going to cause the fight flight and then doing this technique will neutralize that. So, we’re in the game of turning those off so that they don’t happen anymore. In this case it might be something like I might feel like I’m not good enough, I can’t ever please her, so then I’d tap anywhere on the body where I feel that feeling of anger or frustration. I’d tap on the body and repeat, I just can’t ever please her, I’m just upset. Just tap wherever that is felt on the body. Then what you’re going to do is to tap on your forehead and then continue tapping all the way from your forehead over the top of your head, down to the base of your neck while breathing in through the nose. Then you’re going to breathe out while going back to the forehead while tapping again from the forehead back to the back of the neck while breathing out. You’re going to do that three times, so it’s going to be breathing in while tapping and then exhaling while tapping. You are going to do each three times in a row. Then while tapping you’re going to pant like a dog, 3 times and then you smile at the end. What that does is, when you state the negative, it’s like taking a big rock and throwing it into a pond. It makes his huge disconnection or ripple. In that moment your fight flight responses are firing, you’re wanting to run, you’re wanting to hide, or you want to confront it, all the stuff. Yet when you’re tapping it’s like throwing in lots of little rocks around that big rock and it stops the waves, stops the disruption, and brings it into a state of peace. Doing the breathing shuts off the fight or flights as well and allows you to be at full choice, or cause, instead of being reactive. It gets people out of the reactive part of the brain and body and into a place of logic and into a place of choice, and that’s why this technique works so well. This is just the intuitive part; you’ll just state the negatives and do the alignment. Then you’ll just state some positives that you might be avoiding. In this case with the spouse, you might be like, I can be at peace and listen to my spouse without getting reactive. That might be something I would say but might not seem real because I’m fighting it and I’m allergic to it so then I’m going to tap any resistance and redo the technique. So then in through the nose while tapping and then out through the mouth while tapping. Then three times in a row panting and then smile. I can do as many negatives or as many positives as I want, 5 to 10 usually works for the well. By the time you’re done you’ll be in a state of peace, and a state of presents able to take control of a situation and move forward without going in circles all day. So that’s a little taste of how it works, the full version is checking like four hundred different things and checking different sublayers and super in-depth. But anybody can do just what I just showed and that, in and of itself is way better than just staying positive affirmations. It’s way better than just visualizing, it’s way better than meditation. It’s going to be way more effective, so give it a shot. 

Ken:

Okay thank you for that and for the place that I’m at today, I really appreciate the things that I’ve learned from you. Now if there were only three ideas you could leave this world and for your posterity what three things would you leave so that they could have an amazing life.

Tyler:

Three ideas or three things, number one would be more of a spiritual piece. I would just say that God is real and if you get closer to him and really form a connection with him your life will be way better and spend as much time as you can getting in tune. I think that would be the first thing. Okay the second thing would be allergies and addictions are the only thing keeping them from what they want! So, if they’re ever stuck, if they’re ever feeling down, all it is is an allergy or an addiction and it can be changed. The second thing is that no matter where you are at, what you’re confronting what you’re doubting, where you’re stuck, it’s just an allergy or addiction and you can change it. So that would be the second thing Third things is have fun, have fun on the journey and just fall forward having fun. Because a lot of times we are too serious about all the stuff that we go through. At the end of the day if you’re not having fun and not coming alive then what the heck is a point. So serious about all the trauma and the drama, the pain, and the suffering. But really like we’re just here to have joy, fun, excitement, and be able to make an impact. So, I would say those three things, focus on God really tune in and the more you can, the more you unlock the secrets of the universe. Two, that everything is either an allergy or addiction. If you will align, you’ll be able to get your results 10 times faster or even a hundred times faster. Number three, being able to just have more fun and more joy, without making it so serious.

Ken:

Great, those are awesome all, right? I want to acknowledge you have done some amazing things. We got in a little into your story, but to come from where you started and didn’t get to where you are it took a lot of work, it took a lot of effort, took a lot of looking inside, and making changes. That’s not easy. That can be one of the most difficult things out there, right? 

Tyler:

It can be, but I would want to pre frame it too, because a lot of people think it’s hard but I also think staying stuck and never changing is even harder. We make it so hard on ourselves, I see people struggling and I’m like that’s the hard path, man if you work on yourself sure it takes effort and energy, but it’s going to take effort and energy to fail. It’s going to take just as much effort and energy to succeed. So, you might as well just do the success part, it’s a lot more fun.

Ken:

I like that, you have been a great example to me. I’m grateful for our friendship and I’m grateful for you being here today. I’m glad to hear about your second book, when that is coming out if you’d like to come on and tell us about it, I’d love to have you back again.

Tyler:

Yeah man I want to be done in the next month and a half or two. I just moved, had a baby, I just started my book on like I think I can crush it out quick, like we can do this!

Yes, if anybody wants to connect in before that they can always join the Facebook group Tylerfb.com and it’s a great place, free resources to learn a little bit more about the technique and experience some of it. Yeah, so that would be Tyler fb.com it’ll take you to a group called abundance alignment technique and there’s modules in there that they can go through webinars they can watch. That’s probably the best way to contact me with the Facebook group there.

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