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Today I have a story, Mr. Clark spent most of his life’s savings on non-refundable tickets for a ship to carry him, his wife, and 5 children to America. About a week before the ship left one of Mr. Clark’s sons, was bitten by a dog. The Dr. that treated the boy recommended the boy be quarantined for his safety and the safety of those around him. Mrs. Clark suggested that Mr. Clark and the other kids go ahead and make the journey. But Mr. Clark was unwilling to leave his wife and ill son behind. So, the day came and on April 10th 1912 at the Southampton Port. Mr. Clark stood on the dock with tears of disappointment and frustration streaming down his face while he watched the ship as it left for America. Think about it, all of his money was leaving the port. He believed his future and dreams all gone. I’m betting he felt alone. I would have been asking why? Why me, why now? I understand what he was going through. There have been times when I felt I had lost everything. I watched as my “ship” left the port. We talk about our “ship coming in,” that is a common phrase. But that also means the ship can leave. So, as he is setting on the dock watching it go. Maybe he even second guessed himself. Maybe he said I and the other kids should have gone. Maybe he told himself he was weak. What kind of thoughts would have gone through your mind? We as humans love to make plans but life often doesn’t go by our plans. But what if the experience was for our protection? What if it made our lives better and we didn’t even know it? Let’s get back to Mr. Clark. On the following Monday which was the 15th of April, just 5 days after he watched the Titanic leave the port, Mr. Clark received news that it had sunk. What was the story that he then told himself? There must have been extreme gratitude in his heart for the safety of him and his entire family. I would have been grateful for God watching out for me and the guardian angels protecting me and mine. Do we always know about the sinking of the ship? No! Will we know why the tire blew, or the car wouldn’t start, know we didn’t get the job, or house? We might but more often for me is, I do not hear about the pileup or other disaster. There might not even have been one. But does it have to matter? For some reason it was not the time. We as humans make our plans and we want to rigidly follow those plans right? So, we lived in our last home for over 17 years. When we moved in, we planned on being there for 5 years. We had even put the house on the market 4 or 5 times. Each time the listing expired. Despite our plans there was something else that needed to happen. Then last December we felt it was time. Our home sold in 3 days. Everything that happens comes to us to provide us the opportunity to grow and become.
Mr. Clark had to set with the decision that he made for five days before learning of the doom that came to the Titanic. If we are going to learn many times it takes more than five days. This comes back to the story you tell. What do you think Mr. Clark told himself over that period? Would you have continued with the why me story? But “why me is actually the wrong question. Because any of the answers you come up with are not real nor do they serve you. They are centered on you. You look at your suffering and compare it to the suffering you see in others. The problem is like we talked about in podcast 190. We only see the before and after the transformation not the middle. We often don’t see the adversity of others. It is important to look outside of ourselves and see the misery that others are experiencing. If we look carefully most of the time, we will find that others are also facing difficulties. When we see their adversity, it changes our perspective. When we look at the misfortune of others, we often become grateful that we don’t have to experience the hardships they do.
Suffering is relative; it doesn’t matter the experience it will completely fill the human soul and conscious mind. It can fill the soul and mind because of the story we tell about our suffering. With the story we can fill small crevasse or the largest buildings. This is not to say your distress is insignificant. On the contrary the story you tell yourself is compelling and can cause much pain. If you can’t see the disaster of the boat sinking the pain can go on and on because the story does. But it may be that the plan you had would not have been in your best interest. Even though it looked like it would be. Recognize that God or the Universe might want something else for you. Maybe a street or highway 5 miles over that will get you to the place you are meant to be rather than the road ahead of you. Be sure to look at it from that point of view. The things that happen are for you not to you or against you! We often tell people that they shouldn’t have to experience this, or outlive certain people. But that is wishful thinking. In life and in accordance with natural law there are times when youth have to go through horrible things and some parents do lose their kids. I get that these things happen but you are in charge of your story. So instead ask a better question: ask yourself what now? If you need help with this, I can give you tools and keep you accountable. The “You Have Value” program is specifically created for you. It will give you tools that work for you! So, reach out to me to set up a time to talk and let us create the value so that you can have an amazing life!
In our next blog we will be talking about “The Three C’s,” be with us tomorrow to find out what they are…
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