Dissolving Into a Disgusting Pile of Goo
Welcome to “Your Amazing Life” and thanks for being here for the last year. Our anniversary is coming up on April 22. We discuss tools and tricks to create an Amazing Life in this Blog. There are a few powerful ways you can support us. First is to subscribe to it and leave a rating/ review and leave your top takeaways from what we talked about, also interact with the community on the Facebook page. Next, be a hero to your friends and family and share it with them… Lastly, Goto anchor.fm/ken-gerber/support and sponsor it. Your support makes a massive difference. Check out the show notes for links to the subjects we discuss and if you have any topics, you would like me to address just put it in the private Facebook group. I want to give a shout out to my Canadian tribe. They are rocking it up in the “Great White North” Thanks to them for sharing this with their friends and family. Let’s get into Your Amazing Life.
So, what the heck am I referring to huh? Since we are in spring, I thought I would talk about nature. Well, a caterpillar one day stops eating, then hangs upside down, then spins a silky cocoon or molts into a shiny chrysalis. We can see the before and after of the transformation. But what happens in the transformation? The first thing that happens is the caterpillar digest itself by releasing an enzyme to dissolve its tissue. This is the disgusting pile of goo part. If you opened the cocoon at this point the caterpillar would ooze out. It then starts to grow highly organized cells. Then from the goo all around it they are able to rapidly fuel the cell division to create the body of the butterfly. Then once the butterfly’s body is complete it starts to crack open the cocoon. Then when a small hole is created it starts to push through the hole which completes the transformation pushing the bodily fluids to the point of the body that they need to be for the butterfly to function. In some butterflies there continues to exist some of the body parts of the caterpillar.
You might be saying this is all very interesting Ken but what does this have to do with my amazing life? Well let’s look and see. Have you ever seen someone around you that is a caterpillar, maybe on social media? Someone who is unsure, that has not committed or grown? Someone that is content to crawl around and eat. They don’t see anything better for their life than what they have? Then what about butterflies, have you seen those that post pictures on social media of their accomplishments, fancy cars, big houses, or beautiful pictures of themselves. If you ever thought someone, had it made you have seen a butterfly. Those two sides of the transformation are very visual and we can easily see them? But what happened in between? This in-between is not the part that we see most of the time. What goes on, in between is what creates the transformation. Those who become caterpillars have to tear apart their ego. Dissolving it. They have to put in the work to rebuild themselves into the beautiful butterfly that was within them the whole time. The parts are all there, nothing is required from the outside. It is the same for you. Everything you need to become the butterfly is inside of you. All the parts are there. How comfortable is it to stop eating, hang upside down, and enclose yourself?
Do you think the caterpillar ever thinks “I can’t become a butterfly?” No most likely not. But it is important for you to realize that the caterpillar is within you. Every part is there. Every experience.
I was talking with my dad today and he was telling me about how he is having experiences that he doesn’t really want. Some people call them trials, others call them problems. He was dealing with the EasyRest company. He bought a bed, they had taken his money, it took them over twice as long to deliver it as promised, then the bed was defective. He had called over and over but they would help him. Many times, they wouldn’t even answer him, the service was slow to non-existent. So, he tried to cancel and each time they would give him a different story. This was so frustrating and he didn’t want to have to deal with it. He would feel anger, frustration, exhaustion, and maybe some hurt. Those are very justifiable emotions in that case, right? I have definitely experienced situations like that in my life and have felt like that. Anger, frustration, hurt, exhaustion all of those are real feelings and we will experience them. Without feeling anger, we would not know pleasure. Anger is an appropriate emotion. Now there are different coping skills for dealing with these appropriate emotions. The caterpillar might set and wallow in an emotion, maybe others would use some risky or aggressive behavior over eating, drugs, alcohol, or sex. It could be that you criticize yourself.
It is how we handle the things that come into our lives that decide whether we are a caterpillar or butterfly. Because both are made up of the same experiences. It is not that those that we see as successful have less challenges. Life happens to all of us. Emotions happen to us all. Successful people still have feelings of anger, frustration, fright, sadness, or many others. But how would a butterfly handle these trials or challenges differently than a caterpillar? Even when we are in the middle of the transformation things will continue to happen to us. It will rain, the sun will beat down, the wind will blow, maybe even the plant will catch fire. What we become is not based on what happens to us. Short of our life ending, it is not about what happens to us. I know people that have been abused that are more successful than me I know people that have been abused that are less successful than I. It is not about the level of abuse that stopped or made them successful. It is about the story they told about the abuse. Some told themselves the story that they could not be successful because of the situation and the emotions they felt due to those experiences. They never got out of being a caterpillar. It is a lot of work to rebuild yourself and become a butterfly. It is uncomfortable to dissolve your ego.
In our next blog we will be talking more about nutrition…
I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. I’m grateful that you are spending your time with me today so we can develop this friendship. You mean a lot to me. I know you have overcome some really tough things to get here. Let’s set up a time to talk so we can discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!