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Today we are going to talk about curing ADHD. Now because ADHD is just a list of symptoms and there is nothing technically wrong in the body, it cannot be cured by meds or medical treatment. It is just a series of behaviors that do not readily fit into our culture. So, if it is all behavior based then managing ADHD would be behavior modification. While teaching behavioral modification medication could be helpful as a stop gap and short-term intervention. When you look up ADHD on the internet it is always about whether or not to medicate. I think that this is a poor question. A better question is if medication is warranted, how long will medication be needed to build the tools necessary to overcome the symptoms? Then this means that other questions are needed. Questions about what tools and skills need to be acquired and how are those built into the person’s life. ADHD is not cured but it can be managed by learning skills.
So yesterday we spoke about ADHD and we discussed our desire to fix or medicate it. We went over its history. ADHD is part personality, part skills and abilities and the lack of them. We talked about how there is no test for ADHD and the symptoms can come from many other issues. This can make it hard to diagnose ADHD. Some Dr’s start you on the meds if your symptoms are right and then if it works, you have the title. So, the symptoms that they look for to diagnose folks are: short attention span, hyperactivity, impulsiveness, fidgeting, disorganized, and poor time management. We talked about how those look yesterday. Today we are going to look at tools for overcoming ADHD.
I talked about my ADHD and I have known some tools for years and others have come as of late. This is because life changes. But as my wife and I were dating I told her that I needed things picked up. I needed the house to be relatively clean. I needed blank spots on the walls. I get claustrophobic if things are too busy or cluttered. With ADHD I learned it is important to have routines and habits. Because things are set up as routines and habits, I don’t need to worry about many of the symptoms. The short attention span is a problem that is one of the reasons I have had so many jobs over the years. But I do have the ability to hyper focus and this is something that serves me. My fidgeting can be useful and doesn’t need to be changed. My disorganization has through practice been turned into a skill. So, I found and created tools to make my life what I wanted it to be.
Ways to overcome short attention span: Here is an easy start. Chewing gum has been found to improve attention and performance. Stay hydrated, drink lots of “WATER” This is important to your body and mind. Break things into manageable chunk size. Here is a very important one. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness or meditation strengthens your attention span and can help you lock out distractions. Meditation is in practice, in clearing the mind, focusing on the present moment, and detaching from distractions.
Next let’s look at impulsivity, The first thing we need to do is to learn to stop and check in with our bodies. Check thoughts that come up. There is a split second between having a thought and acting on it. You have to get in that split second. If the impulsive behavior has just occurred ask questions about why and did that, and did that get you what you wanted. Find that split second before it happened when you could have interrupted the process. When you have a thought count to five before giving in to that thought.
Fidgeting and restlessness. Now this one is only a problem because of old worn out and untrue information. But according to recent studies fidgeting could provide physiological stimulation to bring attention and focus. It can help you relieve stress, and lose weight too. Fidgeting can help boost our attention and energies us. Use things like a small stress ball attached to the desk with stretchy string, or exercise bands around the legs of the chair. Fidgeting burns calories, can reflect discomfort and is associated with not paying attention. This is another place where mindfulness, or meditation can help also try mindful music.
Lastly let’s talk about disorganization and difficulty prioritizing tasks (which is time disorganization.) It is possible that you have had experiences in your life that caused life disruption creating disorganization. Maybe it is due to bad habits. Maybe it was how you were brought up. I knew a guy who was disabled and had been homeless. He filled his apartment with things stacked ceiling to floor with just enough room for him to walk through. He believed this would keep him from being homeless again. Maybe your level of disorganization is not to that level. Maybe the event was not as traumatic. Maybe it is what you learned from your parents. It doesn’t matter where you learned it. It really doesn’t matter if the level is hoarder or just cluttered, Does the level of disorder keep you anxious, does it keep you from concentrating. Must you clean things to find what you need? Have you practiced planning, prioritizing, and following through on tasks? Three things to start today. 1. Make your bed! This will give you the recognition of starting the day off right. 2. Make sure things that are important like keys, wallet, purse, have a home and that they are always in their home. 3.Evaluate your time and your living space and how it affects your ADHD. to find out more about ADHD and find tools specific to you contact me.
In our next Blog we will be talking about how behavioral therapy helps ADHD…
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