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So many of us think that we need to fix or medicate ADHD. In fact, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) added Hyperactivity in 1968 and then updated to ADHD in the 1980’s. ADHD is not a typical mental disorder; it is more of a personality trait that doesn’t fit in our society and that we have vilified. Rather than change society to accept this group of people we want to drug them so they fit. According to the DSM there is no single test to diagnose ADHD and often there are comorbidities. Other problems can create similar symptoms. For those of you that are into science and want a test. This is not a good time for you. There is no physical test or no blood work that can be done. No, it is more of a let’s throw it on the wall and see what sticks or try this. Does the drugs work and change the behaviors? If yes then we label it as ADHD. This is how the prevailing thought is worked through this is what we believe about you if you have ADHD. Then you need medication to fix it?
I’ve talked about it before. You probably know I have been diagnosed with ADHD. In fact, the psychologist who diagnosed me said I was off the chart! He had no idea how I had any semblance of a life. It is quite eye opening to read your record from a psychologist. Mine had a lot to say and most of it wasn’t very flattering. I tried Ritalin and other drugs. None of them were a fit for me. This happened in the 90’s when I was in my 30’s. So, I had to learn work arounds. I had learned some workarounds in the USMC. I had to learn how to use my traits to my advantage. I remember getting sidetrack so badly that it took me 24 tries to move one load of laundry. I remember getting sidetrack so that I was driving so much on auto pilot I did not remember what I had passed. I remember my life feeling so out of control. To this day my “motor” runs constantly. I bounce and tap.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is described as a mental health disorder that can cause above normal levels of hyperactivity and impulsive behaviors. People also may have trouble focusing attention on a single task or sitting still for long periods. So those are just “above normal.” Now can this make it hard to fit into our culture? Yes. Can this make some things more difficult? Yes. Can medication or caffeine change our behaviors? Yes. The reason I’m starting here is I want to change your belief that you need fixed. That ADHD is something wrong with you. That you need to fit into the bell curve or be drugged so that you do.
Did you know that:
Vincent Van Gogh, artist.
Abraham Lincoln, president.
Thomas Edison, inventor.
Ansel Adams, photographer.
Albert Einstein, physicist.
F. Scott Fitzgerald, novelist.
Andrew Carnegie, steel entrepreneur.
Norman Schwarzkopf, military general
All of these people are believed to have had ADHD. Was it a problem or the catalyst to what they accomplished?
Let’s go over symptoms of ADHD. Short attention span, especially for non-preferred tasks. Now most people have a short attention span for non-preferred tasks. So, we with ADHD are just out of the norm. This is problematic in the classroom. Where we are supposed to all pay the same attention and learn the same way. Where we can assimilate it the same way as 90% of the others with books and in classroom experiences. There are classes that are more interesting than others to each of us. I was not a fan of Math no matter how they dressed it up. But talking about people, psychology, sociology, or things like that I could pay better attention. Now medication has been proven to provide us the ability to have a longer attention span.
Next, they list Hyperactivity, which is described as constantly active, inability to concentrate and impulsiveness. So, it is a word that combines the other symptoms listed here.
Impulsivity, which may manifest as recklessness. This is often preempted with the statement “Watch this” Now this can be a problem causing many trips to the ER. This is not seeing the whole process but just bits and pieces and acting on it. This is more prevalent in youth than in adults. This is due to time and how it tempers us. We are trained by our bodies to be more careful as we get older.
Fidgeting or restlessness. Man, this is me to a T. I am bouncing during most waking moments. This is something that can annoy others, but that is the biggest downside for most people. Fidgeting burns calories, can reflect discomfort and is associated with not paying attention. But according to recent studies fidgeting could provide physiological stimulation to bring attention and focus.
Disorganization and difficulty prioritizing tasks. These are skills that are learned. They do not have to be strengths, nor do they need to be talents that you are born with. They are habits and they can be learned and adopted. Maybe it is not something that comes easily. But it can be learned. And then there is Poor time management and time blindness. These also can come to certain people as a talent or a strength. But it doesn’t have to, these are things that are also learned.
I want to be quite clear I am not against medication. Especially for short term while building other skills and abilities. I know that medication has its place. It can be helpful in starting to develop tools. I don’t believe that medication should be a long-term answer. If it is adopted as the long-term answer then it relieves us of building skills and it can shut off part of our creativity and who we are. There are tools to overcome each of those symptoms. You can build them into your life and create an amazing life. Ask me for help.
In our next podcast we will be talking more about overcoming the symptoms of ADHD…
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