Thursdays Exchange with Mike Mclaughlin

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Thursdays Exchange with Mike Mclaughlin
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Ken:

Welcome to Thursdays Exchange with Mike Mclaughlin. Mike is an entrepreneur, a graduate of the You Have Value Program and he has been part of many of my undertakings, He is a Tech guy, a friend, but also Mike is one of those it doesn’t matter what is put in front of him; he doesn’t quit, he never gives up and he stands by his friends. Welcome Mike it’s great to have you with us today!

Mike:

Thank you, it’s great to be here

Ken: 

To begin with Mike, I wanted to ask what was going on and what were some of the things that you were struggling when you started the “I Have Value” program?

Mike: 

Pretty darn bad PTSD That I learned to cope with. We attacked it with no chemistry involved, which you know for once something finally worked with it. But I was also having pretty severe marital problems as well. Most of those were because of PTSD, depression, bipolar (type 2), and I am a rapid cycler. Which Ken can attest to he’s seen me do it? How did the saying go if you know the “why” you may do for most any “how” and I had learned the “Why”

Ken:

When we started the program what was it that you were hoping to gain from it?

Mike:

Serenity, serenity in my marriage, which was a huge huge undertaking, Denise, rest her soul. We were great together, we thought we were great together. We were going through some really hard times and I figured out what it was. I figured out what the issue was and we could not have solved it then. But for the purpose of the show if you stay at it, if you want if you want to win you gotta keep playing! Regardless of what you think about it, for the people that saw last nights. The fact is that a lot of the stuff is not necessarily popping back up but there’s a lot of factors still in play. Things still happen. You are still going to go through stuff. But attitude determines altitude! But we kept plugging. I mean out of her mouth; we reconciled the day before she died. Wow!!

Ken:

Did the changes happen as quickly as you were hoping they would?

Mike:

Some of the changes I wanted have still not happened and it has been 5 years since we started. Like we talked about it goes back to Attitude determines Altitude. It is best stated that Denise didn’t change me, nobody has changed me. I’ve changed myself and I mean that. Ken has probably never met someone more stubborn in his life. I guess I come by it honestly, but yeah change is not going to happen right away you got put in work. There are some things that still haven’t changed. That being said though you put in the work you’re going to see results. You told me it was not the Coach’s job to say that whatever you may be going through is right or wrong. Generally, if it caused you some pain or discomfort then it’s very wrong. It’s not the coaches’ job to make that better and really guys nothing will. It is the coaches’ job to help you to become stronger than it. Sun Tzu’s in “The Art of War ” said, if you make your position unassailable you won’t have to fear the combat. You won’t have to fear life’s battles. Sun Tzu and Nikola Tesla have been two great inspirations for me.

Ken:

What was the biggest problem that you were faced with, was it the PTSD?

Mike:

I would say more than likely PTSD. I was trying to deal with feelings of guilt.

Ken:

How did those feelings of guilt play out in your life?

Mike:

What’s the phrase If You Don’t Heal What Hurt You, You‘ll Bleed on People Who Didn’t Cut You – Marcie Lyons probably one of the best answers to that question without going into a huge explanation. 

Ken:

So, you were able to overcome it and get past those feelings of guilt?

Mike:

Yes, I got past those, I mean it took a while, but I got past them. Guys, Ken has been doing this for many more years than YAL has been around. 

Ken:

Where would you be without the “I have Value” Program?

Mike:

That’s easy, dead. I mean I’m not going to I’m not going to sugarcoat it at all. There’s been a thousand instances since that this has helped me with. I’ve been going on and on about a Facebook rant I made, most people with this level of dysfunction have to deal with some level of crazy. I have been weeding out those people who bring drama into my life as much and as quickly as possible. Like the saying goes, “thorns do not produce fruit” okay yeah, I mean many people do like this world produce fruit.  Many people are not as stubborn as I and would not have lasted any one of those nights. Especially January 2020 (When my wife died) that was the great realization, now there have been others and I have continued to work and make changes. 

Ken:

How have the changes that we created continued to work for you?

Mike:

I am obviously still sitting here. That is because I have retained the focus, I mean I guess you could call it that. I think we called it being a rock my buddy mike here at the shop calls it holding your frame. But I would not be able to do that had I not learned the skills. Now again there is no magic button. I wish there was, I would hit the thing. I would build it if I could. But all the things that have come up since I have been able to hold my frame because of the “You Have Value” program. That’s what the behavior modification has done. Regardless of how we brand this, I was around when we porotype this. I was probably one of Ken’s test subjects. 

Ken:

You talked about the skills you gained, do you think you gained more skills, money or emotional Intelligence, how did those work for you?

Mike:

Skills are where it starts, realizing when you go through this and come out on the other side, when you go through life’s battles Like my cousin Jim says in his book “Touching the Dragon”, you are going to come out with scars. Those scars manifest in the form of emotional intelligence, the ability to step out of ourselves and be empathetic. Not Sympathetic but empathetic there is a big difference. So, the money is still manifesting. Ken In the service was a radio man. We have had a few discussions about radios. I am putting together a program to make automatic packet relay service is a way of getting information out there. Like is used by Logistics people, like truck drivers and stuff. But we are transferring its use to get information out there. Now the money I think is going to come in and start coming in huge chunks and hopefully that rainstorm never stops. Guys I know each and every one of you are going out there and working your butt off. I mean brain jobs are harder than any physical work. Here’s another thing it is not if but when the Sedona Method If not now than When?

Ken:

What would you say to those that are sitting on the fence trying to decide whether or not they are a good fit for this program?

Mike:

Okay first off, if you sit with Crow on the fence you’re going to fall with the crow off the fence. Get off the fence. You know we like the earth; people bear fruit. You are not here by mistake, none of you. If I can come to this conclusion myself then there’s not a person around that it is unable. Have a little bit of faith, definitely have some faith in yourselves I mean you’re going to go through it, don’t give up. I mean keep going and you’re going to do amazing things. So currently blockchains are replacing money. We are on the Petro dollar. What if we had communications as the basis for currency? What would the world be then? We are putting it together right now. Dream Big is where that comes from. Don’t be afraid of dreaming big.  This comes again to get off the fence. Pick a side and don’t let it be the negative one. 

Ken:

Did you get everything you wanted or needed from the You Have Value program? 

Mike:

Yes, some things can’t be fixed. Some things were fixed at the last moment. No Denise is not here right now, that being said she ain’t far off. What I sent out for was to create my own version of what you and Evelyn have done. Did I do that? yes, Are things put on pause? Yes. Are things still manifesting? Yes. Just one note for personal experience, Bereavement is a horrible thing. Tribute is what fixes it. 

Ken:

Okay Mike I want to thank you again you have been by my side for years and years you’ve been a good friend you’ve helped me through a lot of the things that I’ve been working to do you have taught me and helped me learn and grow. You have been a great example of never giving up and I want to acknowledge you for that and I hope that you continue to have an amazing life.

In our next podcast we will be talking about How to Fix ADHD Without Medication.

I want each of you to know I appreciate each and every one of you. I’m grateful that you are spending your time with me today so we can develop this friendship. You mean a lot to me and I am glad you are here. I know you have overcome some really tough things to get here. Like I said at the beginning the 3 things you can do to help, if this message has been helpful today, please share it with a friend or family member who may need to hear it. Or sponsor it. If you haven’t yet, please subscribe to this blog and leave a rating and review. Also join the Facebook group. Or to set up a time to talk with me go to calendly.com/kenn-gerber/introduction-call so we can discuss how you can use these tools and others to get your amazing life!

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