Kevin Hart on What Success is and Being Liked.

Summary

Comedian and actor Kevin Hart was the highest-paid stand-up comedian in 2019. And he has been called the “hardest working person in show business.” But in September, Hart had an experience like we talked about on Monday. Kevin was in a serious car accident that left him with major back injuries and this changed his perspective on what’s important in life. It took an accident that could cause his death to evaluate his life. This is not uncommon like we talked about. Many people only look at their life when they are confronted by their death. Kevin reported While recovering in the hospital, “I got a chance to think about what matters, and it’s not fame,” Hart, 40, told Men’s Health in an interview. “It’s not money. It’s not jewelry, cars, or watches. What matters are relationships.” The best advice that Hart got about work-life balance was: “You can’t be married to your career and date your family,” in that interview with Men’s Health. To Hart, that means “make sure you’re implementing the same amount of time and energy into being present for what matters,”

Kevin was in an accident that left him trapped in his 1970 Plymouth Barracuda after it flipped in Malibu Hills. He stated that when he was strapped into the Ambulance it was like “ a resurrection.” the other version of him died in that moment and a new improved version was born. The 3 spinal fractures he suffered almost left him paralyzed. Kevin is not trying to get back; he doesn’t want to look backwards. He is bounding forwards and looking to be better than he was. He said it started with something as simple as putting his socks on. He said he would go into the closet to try to put them on so his wife couldn’t watch. The morning he was able to get them on that was a big day he says.

It is important to count the wins even the small ones like putting our socks on. I have trouble doing this. I always want to move on to the next goal when one is accomplished. Kevin seems to have the same issue. His Dr wanted him to rest and rehab slowly. But Kevin had other ideas. He had to learn to be convinced that rest is also part of rehab.  Kevin said “People attach failure or an ending, to a problem. Well problems are made to be solved.”  No experience no problem is the ending. Until our heart stops beating problems are just meant to be overcome or solved. Kevin is comfortable sharing deep and dangerous things about himself. He doesn’t need others to see him as perfect or to hide in the shadows waiting for it to blow over. 

All of us want to be liked and Kevin is no different.  He said “I felt like everybody was supposed to like me. Man, I’m a nice guy. I’m a lovable, nice guy. Why wouldn’t you like me? What I found is like, look, everybody’s not gonna like you. And you can’t change that. You can’t control that. So, it’s my job to be happy with my intent. And what it is that I’m trying to do.” It is important to take responsibility for our actions. As we take responsibility we can move past the shame we feel and overcome the experience and the action. Realize that every experience we have, every action we take brings with it  consequences. Kevin states that  “If there’s something that you did, then you did it. You know, there’s no wiggle room around it. You can address it, and then you can move on.” 

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